If you think your child is gifted, you are probably right. Parents do know alot about their own children. It’s why parents will tell a doctor that their child is sick even to disagree with the doctor that nothing is wrong. There’s an instinct about these things. So if nothing else, take that away from this article. Parents know their children.
When a child is two and you suspect they are gifted, it is every parent’s urge to pick them up and go get someone to prove to you on paper that you are right. But that will often lead to heartbreak for you the parent because at two, the rate of detection would be fairly improbable and ultimately, there really isn’t a need until they are school-aged. Most schools won’t have children tested until they are in grade three so where’s the rush?
So what do you do once you figure your child is gifted
Marvel at it quietly. Accept it. If your child is gifted, accept it like you would a birth mark or a hair color. That is just part of who your child is. The need to label and verify is a basic mark of our society today and doesn’t do alot for the child. If anything, it can push them into a shell or alternatively make them smug and unapproachable to other children and nobody wants that. So it’s simple. Just don’t tell them you suspect they are gifted. Sure, praise them with ’smart’, ‘nice’ ‘good boy’ but leave the more specific labels to someone else.
Instead, study your child and say nothing. Try to detect their special skills and subject expertise. If it is Art that you detect, start investing in quality art supplies. I’m not joking. Even for your two year old, plunk them down in front of them and watch your little Matisse experiment with the joy of a child but with their gift. Water colors are great.
If it’s language, do the same but in this case with resource books. Plant a word wall and keep adding to it as they learn to read new words. Encourage, never distract. Learn to respect the fact that your child will work and play with language beyond what you want to do. Delight in this talent but limit yourself to the present. Don’t allow your dreaming to take over and put your child on a path somewhere. Remember always that this is a child and they need to explore to develop. Anything else is an impediment to their development.
What about Math? Buy Math books for 12 year olds for your five year old. Explore bits and pieces of Math. Put equations on the bathroom wall with write on bath soap for your child to solve. Better yet, let them quiz you. And don’t forget to call it a Math Party.
What is the different between being good at something and being gifted?
Being gifted means that there is something inside this person that forces them to create, explore and use this subject area or set of skills. Nothing can stop its development. Certainly, people can hurt this part of your child with rude and insensitive remarks but it will still develop because a gift is a gift. All you have to do as the parent is provide support by not going overboard.
Some of the most common forms of being gifted is by being a writer from an early age, an artist or mathematician. If you ever take away paper from a writer, you’ll be sorry because it’ll be the walls that are next. Same with the artist. A Mathematician cannot stop calculating things in his or her head and moves forward with concept after concept. Young singers are everywhere. Their gift is to sing like angels. Think of some of the great singers of modern day and they started writing their songs when they were eight or nine. There is often a difference in even a dance class between the ones that are there because their mom thought it was neat and the one with zeal in her eyes who just can’t get enough and makes her own dance routines.
Gifted or Genius?
A genius is an all around brilliant person who can easily go from Math, Science, to Art and do all equally well and at a high level.
Gifted is when a child excels in one or more subject areas.
What do I do when my child gets to school?
You can point out to the Kindergarten teacher what your child is good at and go from there. As I mentioned earlier, testing doesn’t take place until nine or ten but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t advocate for your child.
With your support and advocacy, your child could end up in a higher set for Math or English. You have to be the voice that says, “He’s really good at writing. Is there something for him?” Your child won’t think to ask for himself so if you don’t say it, they may not notice.
How do I make sure his gift isn’t wasted?
Continuously, remind yourself to bolster your family life with something a little extra for this child. For the singing gifted child, they could also take piano lessons. For the child who excels at writing, don’t hesitate to contact a university to find out about a correspondence course your eleven year old can take. For your artist child, consider putting him in lessons but if he doesn’t want to go just keep surrounding him or her with the tools to get the job done. For your Mathematician, try to get them out to the scientific museums to see where Math can be applied.
Here and there, add something extra and you will find that longterm your child will come back to you one day and say, thank you for doing that one thing that mattered when I most needed it.
Robyn Whyte is the CEO of Stargazer Press. Come see our novels and educational programs at http://www.stargazerpress.com