I Had a “Slip.” What Now?

You’ll hear it all the time: “I haven’t had a drink in
thirty years.” Bill Wilson, the co-founder of Alcoholics
Anonymous, wrote that after having a vision of God, he never
took another drink in his life. Who are we to say that
isn’t true? How do we know, we weren’t there! However,
there is one thing that drug and alcohol therapists and
people in recovery know: it is extremely rare to find
someone in long-term recovery that hasn’t had at least one
“slip.” Maybe several slips. This is not uncommon and it
does not mean that if you slip, you have failed in your
recovery.

Let’s straighten out some terminology. A “slip” is a
brief event when you break your abstinence and have a drink.
Or three. You may even go on a binge-drinking spree for a
few days. Finally, you realize that you’re making a big
mistake, so you stop and re-commit yourself to abstinence.
Maybe you found out that having “just one drink” won’t
work for you; you are unable to drink in moderation.

A “relapse” is a full return to drinking. You pick up
right where you left off; daily drinking, health problems,
DUI arrests, binge-drinking, relationship and job problems
because of your excessive drinking - the whole nightmare.
You don’t stop until you are stopped by your spouse, the
criminal justice system, your boss, etc. To stop drinking
again, you need professional assistance, perhaps even
hospitalization for detox and treatment.

Having a slip is not the end of the world; not even close.
While slips may not be how you want to behave, they can also
be a very valuable source of information about why, when,
and where you drink. Instead of beating yourself up about
having a slip, here are some positive steps you can take if
you have a slip:

· Learn from the slip. What happened in your life that
resulted in you giving in to the urge to drink? Stress?
Anger? Sadness? Disappointment? Celebration? Holidays? A
social gathering? Look very closely at what you were
thinking and feeling right before you slipped. Once you have
identified the “trigger,” when it happens again you will
know that this is a time when you will be tempted to drink.
This knowledge is truly power! If you understand the
reason(s) for your slip, from now on you will be prepared to
face that exact same situation without drinking!

· Don’t allow yourself to feel guilt or shame. You are
not perfect; you are going to make some mistakes. Ease up on
yourself. You did not fail and you have no reason to feel
ashamed. You found out something very important; certain
feelings or situations are drinking “triggers” for you.

· Don’t lie about, or cover up, your slip. Tell the truth
to your support group, your spouse, your counsellor,
whomever. Lying about something tends to mean that you did
something wrong or shameful, and this just is not so!
Talking about your slip with someone you trust is incredibly
helpful in deterring future slips.

· Re-commit to abstinence today! Right now! Tell yourself
“Well, that was interesting. I learned a lot from that
slip, and now I’m going back to abstinence. I will be
prepared the next time I’m “triggered.”

Once you have learned from your slip, let it go. You can’t
change the past, but you need not repeat it.

Rahul Nag is the London, England based former problem drinker who was drinking too much but gave up and now found he has an even better time than before. He has designed a course on how others can either cut down or give up drinking alcohol without ruining their social life. To get your free 5 part course, please visit http://www.alcoholfreesociallife.com

Do you and your significant other enjoy each other’s company, but just don’t spend enough time together? Have you been in a relationship for a while and find yourself wondering where the magic went? Use these 5 tips to deepen your love and build a relationship that lasts.

1. Create a date night.

Swamped with work, appointments and activities for your kids? Make it a point to schedule in real, one-on-one dates with your partner. Just like you’d schedule a business meeting, plan special times to spend together. Not a lot of time after work? Set up a lunch date with your loved one. Whether it’s once a week or once a month, looking forward to and enjoying dates will improve communication and spark your love for each other.

2. Forgive and move on.

Forgive your partner out loud for a shortcoming or mistake he or she made. Be willing to move past it. It’s fine to explain the impact the other person’s action had on you, but also state how you’re going to move past it. Forgiveness invites empathy into a relationship and reminds you that you’re both human. Make deposits in the “forgiveness” bank. Make withdrawals when you yourself need to be forgiven.

3. Give love.

How does your significant other best receive love? Through gifts? Services? Physical touch? Get to know how your partner likes to receive love, then give in the way that she or he likes to receive. For example, suppose you used to give your husband gifts early in the relationship. But, over the years, you’ve learned that he appreciates services much more. So the next time he’s away on a business trip, take his car for a needed tune-up, fill the tank with gas and visit the car wash on the way home. He’ll appreciate this so much more than a CD. Even small things are memorable and invite a feeling of being known, loved and appreciated.

4. Have fun.

Enjoy yourselves together! You hear it all the time: “My spouse and I used to have so much fun together…” If this is you, bring the fun back! What do you love to do together? Dancing? Hiking? Going to the movies? Start these activities again and feel increased love and hapiness return.

5. Get rid of something that bugs your partner.

Stop doing one or two things that tick the other person off. It won’t take much effort to wipe your feet before entering your girlfriend’s condo. It won’t be that tough to remember to put the lens cap back on your husband’s camera. You don’t have to change a hundred behaviors. Just focus on one or two small things. It can make a big difference. Your partner will feel loved and appreciated. Make that extra effort just for him or her!

Pick one or two action steps from this list and apply them to your relationship. Invite your partner in too-show him or her the list and create ideas together. The goal is to bring yourselves closer on a consistent basis to put the spark back into your relationship and make it an enriching one that lasts.

Sue Brenner, Performance Coach and Author, wants you to get the most out of life and work. That’s why she wrote “The Naked Desk: Everything you need to strip away clutter, save time and get things done” - http://x.actionsymphony.com.

While you’re there, get her free eZine, “Ignite Your Life.”

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Introduction

Imagine you are about to present a $10,000,000 project proposal to a large group of investors. You are anxious. You are frightened. You feel sweat breaking out on our back and forehead.

You walk into the room and begin your presentation. Your laptop fails to work. You feel out of place because everyone is wearing Hawaiian Luau shirts. You are five minutes into your presentation and someone from the back yells out, “Hey, what’s your name?” You can’t believe you forgot! You’re embarrassed and now feel really out of place.

Does any of this sound familiar?

This article “33 Do’s and Don’t’s for Your Next Presentation” is written especially for you to address these challenges and to help bullet proof your next presentation. This report is the essential checklist for your next presentation.

You may wonder how EdithYeung.com, a website dedicated to personal development, has anything to do with giving effective presentations. As my readers know, I have been very successful in the corporate world for over 9 years and have given numerous presentations. I know you can achieve your dreams faster, the better you develop your skills as a communicator and presenter.

By reading this report you will learn all the Do’s & Don’ts in 5 parts:

-Before the presentation
-When you first begin the presentation:
-During the presentation
-Ending the presentation
-After the presentation

Read this report in preparation for your next presentation. Good luck and have fun!

Before the presentation:

1. DO: Practice. Practice. Practice. Practice always makes a perfect presentation.

2. DO: Dress to impress. This shows respect for your audience. Why not? It is always more pleasant to watch and listen to someone who takes their speaking and presentation seriously.

3. DO: Get to know your audience before the presentation. Meet at least one or two people from the audience before the presentation. Then bring up their names during the presentation to build rapport with the audience.

4. DO: Understand who your audience is ahead of time. Are you talking to a group of bankers or government officials? Any breaking news lately about their organization? What is their pain? What are they looking for? What kind of expectations do they have for you?

5. DO: Check your equipment. Check any microphone, laptop, projectors, etc. Make sure they all work.

6. DO: Empty your pockets. No one wants to hear your keys or anything else making noise while you are presenting.

7. DO: Turn your cell phone off or put it on silent.

8. DO: Take care of your hair. Make sure no hair will drop in your face.

9. DO: Bring your business cards.

10. DON’T: Try not to eat right before a presentation. You never know about the food.

11. DON’T: Don’t be late! Arrive at least 15 - 30 minutes before you are supposed to present. Give yourself plenty of time to settle in and get your thoughts together.

When you first begin the presentation:

12. DO: Introduce yourself. Don’t assume anything. Depending on time allowed, give a 30 second to 5 minute introduction of yourself.

13. DO: Ask questions. Asking the audience questions is a great way to make sure they are awake and keeping them feeling involved from the start.

14. DO: Tell a personal story. This is simple and effective way to help your audience to get to know you. Make them your friends.

15. DO: Tell them what you are going to tell them. Give them a quick introduction on the objective of your presentation and what are they going to learn or understand by the end of your presentation.

16. DON’T: Don’t try to make jokes if you are not good at it. This can be very dangerous!

During the presentation:

17. DO: Eye contact. Your firm eye contact will convey your confidence. Act like you own the room. Do not glance around the room too fast. Spend at least three to five seconds on each person. Each person wants to feel that you are only talking to them.

18. DO: Smile. Act like you are having a great time! Better yet, have a great time!

19. DO: Speak up. If don’t have a microphone, project your voice a bit louder than you might think to make sure the back of the room can hear you. It’s good to ask the people in the back of the room to make sure they can hear you; it’s a nice courtesy and also helps them feel included.

20. DON’T: Watch your posture. Stand up straight. Don’t walk around too much or do any non-purposeful movements. Unnecessary movements can distract your audience.

21. DO: Use the right words. Try not to use too many acronyms or terms that few people may understand. Connect with your audience and explain in simple terms where possible.

22. DON’T: Be careful with your hands. Again, move your arms and hands purposefully. If you don’t need to use them, just rest them at your sides. Don’t put your hands in your pockets.

23. DO: Rhythm. Pace your speech to a steady rhythm. Not too fast or too slow. Make sure everyone can hear you clearly.

24. DO: Show your excitement about the topic. Increase your voice volume and/or slow down your speech when you are presenting important points.

25. DO: Show your emotion when needed. Slow down when you are trying to present an important point.

Ending the presentation:

26. DO: Conclude by repeating your main points you covered during the presentation.

27.DO: Conclude with a quote. Audiences always remember a good quote.

28.DO: Conclude with a story. Audiences always remember a nice story.

29.DO: Conclude with a call to action. Tell your audience what they should do next after your presentation.

30.DO: If you have a question and answer session, before you answer the question, repeat the question asked by your audience to make sure everyone can hear the question. This keeps everyone involved through the end.

31. DO: Thank the audience.

After the presentation:

32. DO: Continue the relationship. Follow up with your audience either through a phone call, e-mail, or regular mail.

33. DO: Plan to spend at least 30 minutes after the conclusion if time allows at the venue. This will enable you to further connect with your audience. You’ll be surprised at the number of people who will want to talk with you after you’ve delivered an effective presentation.

This article is brought to you by http://www.edithyeung.com

Edith Yeung is an expert in building confidence, taking control of your life, and financial independence.

Edith came to the United States when she was 16 and speaking minimal English. Despite her language barrier and culture shock, Edith completed her college degree at Purdue University, made a successful six figure income career and established a multi-million dollar real estate investment portfolio in just 13 years.

She has worked with companies including AT&T Wireless, Cisco Systems, Ariba, American Management Systems, Siebel, Oracle Symantec, Telstra Australia, Matav Hungary Telecom, Autodesk, Taiwan Semi-conductor just to name a few. Her leadership and involvement was instrumental to the success of many multi-million dollar projects.

In March 2007 Edith said goodbye to corporate America and now devotes 100% of her time to http://www.edithyeung.com

Edith is the founder of EdithYeung.com &

California has some of the highest homeowners insurance rates in the nation. So how do you get cheap California homeowners insurance? Here’s how …

Homeowners Insurance Coverage

Homeowners insurance provides coverage for damage to your home and your personal property caused by fire, lightning, theft, water damage, vandalism, and burglary. It also protects you and your family against liability lawsuits.

Go Shopping

The difference between one insurance company’s policy and another’s can be $1,000 or more, so it pays to shop for rates. There are websites where you can go to get quotes from a number of different companies. Some of these sites even have a chat feature where you can get advice from an insurance expert (see link below).

Raise Your Deductible

The deductible is the amount you have to pay on a claim before your insurance kicks in. Raising your deductible from $250 to $1,000 can save you 24% or more on your insurance. This not only decreases your premium, it also decreases you chances of being dropped by your insurance company for filing too many claims.

Combine Your Insurance

Purchasing your California homeowners and auto insurance through the same company will save you as much as 15% on your premium. This also gives you the benefit of only having to pay one bill and deal with one insurance company.

Get Discounts

Most insurance companies will give you a discount on your premium for the following:

* Safety systems - fire alarms and sprinkler systems.

* Security systems - burglar alarms, security lights, dead bolt locks.

* Senior discount - If you’re a retired senior some companies will give you 10% discount.

Check Them Out

Getting the best price for your homeowners insurance doesn’t mean you’re getting the best deal. You should check out the company you choose with your state’s department of insurance to make sure it’s a reputable company and will pay your claims.

Visit http://www.LowerRateQuotes.com/homeowners-insurance.html or click on the following link to get California homeowners insurance quotes from top-rated companies and see how much you can save. You can get more homeowners insurance tips by checking out their “Articles” section.

The author, Brian Stevens, is a former insurance agent and financial consultant who has written extensively on California homeowners insurance.

I am going to share with you a real life case study from the
British newspaper: The Guardian. It featured in December
2006, three stories of people who had given up alcohol.

The story of this young lady, a 26 year old syndication
executive living in London who gave up alcohol two years ago

“I used to wake up exhausted every Saturday and every Sunday
morning because I had been drinking, and I was starting to
think: why do I do this to myself? Is it something I really
enjoy? And then I was put on some medication for a month,
which meant I couldn’t drink.

It was hard at first, because I was determined not to change
my social life. So I still went out at weekends and got home
at 6am, but I discovered that I could wake up at lunchtime
and instead of feeling awful all afternoon, I felt fine and
could get on with everything I wanted to do. So after the
month was up I thought: why don’t I just carry on? And then,
when I got to six months, I felt really proud of myself and
thought, “I can do this - it’s a real achievement”.

One of my big worries has been what other people will think
of me: no one wants to be thought dull and boring. I usually
wait until I know someone a bit before I tell them I don’t
drink, so they don’t make any assumptions about the sort of
person I am. But on the whole I’ve discovered that the
people you’re out in the pub with don’t really notice that
you’re not drinking: you’re aware of it, but they’re not.

One fallout from my decision to stop drinking has been that
I have lost about a stone in weight. I wasn’t overweight,
but I am very pleased to have got slimmer: and it is
definitely not because I eat less, because I really do enjoy
my food! The other thing I have noticed is that I feel more
robust in myself, and I don’t pick up every little bug and
cold going round, though I don’t know whether or not that is
related to not drinking.

The office party - it’s our Christmas one tonight - is
always one occasion when I’m really happy that I don’t
drink. I always used to have that worry the next morning
that I had said the wrong thing to my boss or something when
I’d had too many glasses of wine: now I know that, whether
or not it is the middle of the night at a party, I’m always
the real me, not someone who is in a bit of an alcoholic
haze saying stupid things. In that sense it has made me feel
a lot more confident about myself.”

This is a great story and if you read the start again, look
at the questions she asked herself. Talent is asking the
right questions. “Why do I do this to myself? Is it
something I really enjoy?”

Ask yourself similar questions to this young lady and you
will start to get similar results to her. Plus she lost a
stone (14 lb) in weight! Who would like this side-effect?

Rahul Nag is the London, England based former problem drinker who was drinking too much but gave up and now found he has an even better time than before. He has designed a course on how others can either cut down or give up drinking alcohol without ruining their social life. To get your free 5 part course, please visit http://www.alcoholfreesociallife.com

The construction and inner workings of an upholstered piece of furniture can be as mysterious as an episode of Murder, She Wrote (ask your Grandma). But hidden under the decorative fabric or cover lies the secret to the piece’s overall function, comfort, and longevity. No need to call Angela Lansbury in to solve this case, read on as we uncover what makes your chair or sofa tick.

The frame is the single most important component in determining whether or not a piece of furniture is going to stand the test of time. You probably figured wood as being the most commonly used frame material, and this, of course, is true. But any old hunk of tree won’t due if you plan on passing this wonderful chair, sofa, love seat, or whatever on to your children or grandchildren (they’ll probably just put it in storage or sell it at a yard sale anyway).

Hardwoods, such as oak, alder, ash, beech and birch are what you’re looking for in a frame. These hardwoods have a tighter grain and allow for screws, pegs, and nails to be set securely. Also, the best-made frames use wood that has been kiln-dried. This process consists of heating the wood in an industrial oven to remove excess sap and moisture. The process also makes the wood resistant to absorbing any outside moisture. If you’re wondering what the problem is with moisture, I’ll tell you. If you already know the answer to this then skip down a little Mr. or Mrs. Smarty-Pants. Moisture can cause warping and swelling, can lead to loose joints and fastenings, and in severe cases can cause mildew or rotting, other than that, it’s great.

The quality of the frame depends not only on the materials used, but how they’re joined and held together. To create a strong, rigid frame, a variety of woods and laminates can be used in joints and for blocking and doweling. Joints are places where one piece of the frame meets another. These points of intersection need to be secured and reinforced with blocks and dowels to allow the frame to hold up over time. Blocking refers to placing additional ‘blocks’ of wood behind or diagonal to joints and corners to help relieve the stress these areas encounter. Blocks also provide lateral support and create a larger area for screws and fasteners to set wood elements securely. Doweling is the process of drilling into both pieces of the joint and then placing a pin, or dowel into the hole, thus further connecting the two pieces and adding extra support.

For a HUGE selection of bedroom furniture including beautiful modern platform beds visit GREENCulture.com.

At our retail bike store, many of our customers say they want to purchase a beach cruiser, but they don’t live on the beach. The main question happens to be, “is a beach cruiser just for the beach?” The answer is a big - NO Way!

All riders can enjoy Beach cruisers, whether you live in California, New York, Wisconsin, Iowa, Missouri, or any other state - or country for that matter, if there is a road, a beach cruiser bike is ready to ride on it. This style of bike appeared in the 1930’s and was the predominant style for bicycles through the 1950’s.

The large tires on beach cruisers were originally designed to handle sand on beaches (greater surface area than small tires), but the great side effect is that these tires provide one soft and comfortable ride.

Beach cruiser bikes are not only comfortable, they are also very stylish and can really make a statement about you and your personality. Cruisers are meant to cruiser, and if your riding style is a laid back ride where you can soak up the view, then try one out today.

If you live in a flat area without many hills, a one-speed should work just fine. If you live in a hilly area, or want more of a variety of speeds, you may want to consider a beach cruiser with multiple speeds.

Beach cruisers are taking hold across the land and are no longer just for the beach! You may want to consider a Beach Cruiser for your next bike.

Michael Harland is the Sales Manager for A Bike Store, which offers Beach Cruisers for sale. His information comes from personal experience and he has been writing on the subject of law enforcement, security and bike related topics since 2001.

Alvin Day in his best selling book: ‘If caterpillars can fly, so can i,’ he describes words as the raw material of life. And this is so true, it is really the magic if there is any behind instant success, massive transformation and confidence in yourself, receiving the adoration of your peers, the weapon for defeating the enemy, the ingredients to making you happy, it is human natures leveller, capable of allowing you to change your life beyond your wildest imaginations.

It was with amazement i learnt that the late great American president, Abraham Lincoln, only had 12 months education in his entire life, yet he rose to become the 16th president of the United States, the most powerful nation in the world. Sir Winston Churchill, perhaps Britains greatest ever leader, for most of his early political life was ignored from the arena. Malcolm X too who most regard as an excellent orator was for the early parts of his life lost in his ways with no direction and faced racism at school. Mark Twain, who had a very difficult childhood is today revered as one of America’s greatest ever literary writers.

So what do all the people above share in common? And what was responsible for their transformation from unknown obscurity to public icon? Well, it was simply their sheer desire for knowledge, it was undeniably insatiable. In the case of Malcolm X by the time he left prison to begin his quest as a crusader he devoured works by Shakespeare, and also the English Dictionary word for word, as well as the Koran. His level of diction and the inextricably linked confidence that proceeds such act enabled him to be catapulted as leader of men most of whom had far superior academic backgrounds. In the case of Abraham Lincoln, he was devoted to verse, not only did he memorise and repeat most of Shakespeare’s work but he made notes and wrote essays about them. Some of his speeches are indelibly etched in the minds of most Americans, especially of the older generation. His speech delivered at Gettysburg is so surreal that it has found a fitting place at Oxford University.

Now this level of transformation does not only occur to people with difficult starts in life, the likes of Sir Winston Churchill and Woodrow Wilson were by academic standards very educated men, but what set them apart was their language, their command of the english language which is my entire point. Ted Nicholas who is regarded as the $4 Billion dollar man because of the amount of products he has sold and marketed for his clients through the years wrote in his best selling book ‘how to turn words into money’ he said: ‘words, not numbers, is the true currency of business.’ You see Ted Nicholas understood the power of words and as a result he is today seen as one of the most successful copywriters ever to grace this earth. So what am i saying? Basically, if you wish to get ahead in your job or career, perhaps you did not get a good start in your life do not worry about it, you can really get ahead of your peers as most people once they have completed formal training usually stop at thatpoint and this is where you can catch up and in most cases surpass them as we have seen from some of the names mentioned above. These people rose from the depths of their failings to become world famous, respected, loved, and very successful in the process.

Ultimate power and confidence as well as success in life will come once you begin to realise the importance of self-training, continuos education which is the pre-requisite for high achievement. I urge you to take this advice on board as I have seen the improvements occur to me personally in terms of my confidence massively improving, as well as seeing similar magical effects in other people.

I have compiled an ebook on the power of words titled ‘101 Most Powerful Bathroom Quotes,’ and so if you would like a FREE copy, please send me an email to: femidirect@hotmail.com

Femi Yusoof

http://www.careerinsights.tv

Low Self-Esteem, low self-worth, ‘I’m not good enough’,
no-one likes me, I hate myself and so does everyone else etc

These are the thoughts which I believe lead people to drink.
This can all be summed up as: a negative self-image.

Some experts talk about addictive personalities, alcoholism
being a disease, physical addictions to the substance etc.

I am sure all of these are true in certain situations but I
believe that for the majority of people with alcohol issues
a poor and negative self-image is one of the key reasons
why they reach for a drink.

So, we will go through some simple and quick
exercises you can use on a daily basis to deal with the
root cause of many alcohol problems.

Please do not under-estimate how effective these techniques
can be and most of them only need 30 seconds or more so
why not give them a go?

1. Look into the mirror and look into the black of your eyes
and say “I love and accept myself”. Almost certainly you
will say things like ‘ “Rubbish” or have other objections.

See what these are and ask them are they true? Would you
say this to your children or someone you really love? Let
these thoughts go and continue saying “I love and accept
myself”

Do this everyday for 30 seconds to 1 minute until you can
say this sentence “I love and accept myself” without any
negative reaction. It just is so

2. Spend 5 minutes each day writing down what you think
about yourself and what you have done that day. Most of
this will be negative.

E.g. “I am such a pathetic loser. I cannot do anything right
I bet I will be found out today”

On the left hand side write these negative thoughts down
and on the right hand side imagine you were advising your
best friend who had these thoughts. How could they be more
positive and realistic?

So for the above example, write the opposite or evidence
which would make your best friend feel better about
themselves. It must be realistic and true otherwise it will
not have an impact

E.g. “Why am I ‘a pathetic loser’? How do you qualify to be
one. Is there a group of such people. I don’t think so. I
might have made mistakes but that is my behaviour not who I
am as a person.

Are you sure I cannot do anything right. I think I have
done well in getting this job, helping my sick mother etc.

Who is going to find me out? Did I really get where I am by
accident? What about all the hours of work I put in.. etc”

This may take a few days but eventually you will start to
feel better

3. A simple one. Being Here Now. Please practice this for
30 seconds when you wake up and are lying in bed. Don’t
think any thoughts. Just focus on your feelings. The weight
of your body on the bed, the sounds you can hear, the things
you can see, the taste in your mouth.

For just 30 seconds, focus on your senses without thinking
about them or trying. Feel, see, hear, touch and taste
whatever you do. Simple exercise. Do this one for 7 days and
notice the difference.

So, these are simple exercises they probably won’t teach
you in many alcohol treatment centres but which over the
course of regular practice will make you feel better and
automatically deal with the underlying cause of alcohol
issues for yourself and many people: a poor self-image

Rahul Nag is the London, England based former problem drinker who was drinking too much but gave up and now found he has an even better time than before. He has designed a course on how others can either cut down or give up drinking alcohol without ruining their social life. To get your free 5 part course, please visit http://www.alcoholfreesociallife.com

Triggers are those situations, people, things which cause
you to reach for a drink automatically. In the same way,
that a song can bring back strong memories so can specific
situations and people.

Once we know the triggers, we can start planning in advance
either how to avoid coming into contact with the triggers or
finding other ways of dealing with the emotions and feelings
so as to avoid having to drink.

So, think back over the last month or longer if you haven’t
been drinking a lot recently. When were the specific times
you drank too much or felt you lost control with alcohol?

Write down:
Who you were with
What time it was
Where it was
What happened before you started drinking
Even, why did you start drinking
What were the emotions you felt in these situations which
made you want to drink. E.g. boredom, loneliness, low
self-esteem, anger, stress and pressure etc

Now come up with the Top 5 triggers or situations in which
you drink too much. It might be at work, or on Saturday
nights. Or on your own at lunch times.

Whatever it is, now focus on the solution not the problem.
How can you either avoid the situation altogether - e.g.
going for a ‘quick drink’ at lunchtimes. Do something else
for lunch instead.

Or come up with alternative solutions to these triggers.
Tell your colleagues at lunchtime you are not going to
drink. Go to places with them where there is no alcohol,
goto the gym at lunchtimes instead. Listen to the hypnosis
CD which comes with the course etc.

Apply this kind of creative thinking to your own triggers
and deal with them in advance before there is any problem.

Spending five minutes doing this is going to give you a lot
more control and confidence in having a great life without
needing to resort to alcohol.

Rahul Nag is the London, England based former problem drinker who was drinking too much but gave up and now found he has an even better time than before. He has designed a course on how others can either cut down or give up drinking alcohol without ruining their social life. To get your free 5 part course, please visit http://www.alcoholfreesociallife.com