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The 188 stage Hero’s Journey (Monomyth) is the template upon which the vast majority of successful stories and Hollywood blockbusters are based upon. In fact, ALL of the hundreds of Hollywood movies we have deconstructed (see URL below) are based on this 188+ stage template.

Understanding this template is a priority for story or screenwriters. This is the template you must master if you are to succeed in the craft.

[The terminology is most often metaphoric and applies to all successful stories and screenplays, from The Godfather (1972) to Brokeback Mountain (2006) to Annie Hall (1977) to Lord of the Rings (2003) to Drugstore Cowboy (1989) to Thelma and Louise (1991) to Apocaplyse Now (1979)].

THERE IS ONLY ONE STORY

THE 188 STAGE HERO’S JOURNEY:

a) Attempts to tap into unconscious expectations the audience has regarding what a story is and how it should be told.

b) Gives the writer more structural elements than simply three or four acts, plot points, mid point and so on.

c) Gives you a tangible process for building and releasing dissonance (establishing and achieving catharses, of which there are usually four).

d) Tells you what to write. For example, at a certain stage of the story, the focus should be on the Call to Adventure and the micro elements within.

ABRIDGED TIPS, EXCERPTS AND EXAMPLES:

(simply go to http://www.screenplay-structure.com/ or http://www.story-structure.org/ for full details)

*****Guardians of the Sword*****

The Sword if a metaphor for an Expansion of Consciousness. Taking the Sword is no easy feat. It is at least guarded and rests behind two anti-chambers.

Guardians of the Outer Chamber prevent the Outer Chamber being breached.

Outer Chamber. The Hero et al breach an Outer Chamber.

Guardians of the Inner Chamber prevent the breaching of the Inner Chamber. In Dances with Wolves (1990), John cannot be seen with Stands with a Fist, as she is in mourning. In Raiders of the Lost Ark (1984), Nazi soldiers block the way. In Out of Africa (1985), bulls block the way.

*****Ordinary Self*****

Whether the Hero et al arrive from an Ordinary World or arrive through the process of swift Exile, the Ordinary Self must be made explicit. This is because stories are all about Transformation and the Ordinary Self is an initial benchmark. In Straw Dogs (1971), David is a Mathematician.

*****Greater Antagonism*****

The Greater Antagonism is developed or further made explicit (post Trial 3 and the conquest of the Outer Challenge). The Hero has come a long way but he (as well as the audience) are reminded that this has yet to be conquered: In The Matrix (1999), Neo learns about Agent Smith. And that no one has ever beaten an agent in battle. In Gladiator (2000), while Maximus is learning the gladiator art, we learn more about Commodus.

*****New World of the Transformation*****

It is not unusual for the New World of the Transformation to be made explicit and developed before the hero engages in the Trials and Transformation. In Walk the Line (2005), Johnny moves straight from succeeding at the audition to singing in front of a crowd, where he meets June Carter. In Gladiator (2000), Maximus is brought into Proximo’s World.

Learn more…

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The single most important relationship skill is not communication, it’s taking ownership.

Successful relationships require taking ownership of your “experience.”

WHAT IS YOUR “EXPERIENCE?”

Your “experience” is what happens inside your body and your mind in response to events. It is composed of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations.

Your experience is involuntary, it just “happens.” It’s neither good or bad or right or wrong. Your experience is always OK and valid.

YOUR THOUGHTS

We spend a lot of time in our head listening to our thoughts. Sometimes thoughts just pop into our consciousness automatically, and sometimes we direct our thoughts with intentionality to solve a problem, express ourselves, make a decision, etc.

And some of our thoughts are judgments. A “judgment” is making a meaning or interpretation in response to an event (right, wrong, good, bad, theory, explanation, reasoning, logic, etc).

FACTS VS. JUDGMENTS

You and a friend go for a walk. You say “It’s a beautiful day.”

Your friend responds “No, it sucks.”

Your reaction is to be surprised. You can’t imagine how anyone could experience such a warm, sunny day to “suck.” Your impulse might be to argue with them- “Are you kidding? Look at that clear blue sky. It’s a gorgeous day!”

This is a very small example of a huge dynamic that creates more relationship conflict than anything else you can imagine.

So let’s take a look at this. You observe the following facts:

The sky is blue

The temperature is 76 degrees

You are walking in a park

Facts are typically measureable events and can be observed through a video camera. If you poll 100 people about a fact, such as “Is the sky blue?” you will typically get almost unanimous agreement that it is blue (except from the color blind!). If you poll 100 people and ask “Is the sky pretty?”, you are asking for an opinion or judgment and will typically get less than 100% agreement.

Your experience of the day is positive. You interpret the blue sky as “beautiful,” the temperature as “perfect” and “comfortable,” and your body “feels good” to get exercise by walking. These are meanings you’ve created from your experience of the facts or events.

Your friend’s experience is negative. We don’t know why yet, but there are many reasons why they might judge the day to “suck.”

YOU HAVE A CHOICE

In the above example, you have a critically important choice to make in your response to your difference of opinion about the day-

Option 1: Focus on the difference (e.g. “Are you crazy? Look at that blue sky and tell me it’s not a beautiful day!”)

Option 2: Focus on curiousity, compassion (e.g. “What’s going on for you?”)

The unconscious knee-jerk response is often to focus on the difference in our experiences and judgments. This choice discounts and argues with any point of view that doesn’t mirror ours and leads to conflict.

It requires a conscious choice to accept differences and not impose our own experience and judgments on others. To come from a place of curiosity about and compassion for a human being who we care about who thinks and feels differently from ourselves.

THE IMPORTANCE OF OWNERSHIP

It is not someone else’s fault that you are thinking or feeling something good, bad, or indifferent. It is coming completely from inside you.

The principle of ownership can be hard to grasp when our partner provides the trigger for how we feel and react, but the fact is that while our experience is involuntary, we do have complete choice over the meanings we create and the actions we take.

Behavior follows patterns. Nothing ever happens just once. If you don’t strive to take complete ownership of your thoughts, feelings, and judgments, you will follow a pattern of blaming others, playing victim, and your life and relationships will suffer.

HOW TO TAKE OWNERSHIP- A FOUR-STEP PARADIGM

I have found that the easiest way to take ownership of your experience in a relationship is to keep in mind the triad of Facts, Judgments, and Feelings-

Facts- usually a measureable event (”the sky is blue”)

Judgments- the meaning we make of the event (”the blue sky is pretty”)

Feelings- our emotions and sensations (warm, cold, happy, sad, etc)

Oftentimes, what we human beings do, especially when we’re upset or excited, is we make judgments about something and try to make that be the fact.

“You make me so angry.”

“You’re a jerk.”

“I love you.”

“War is hell.”

“Ice cream is good.”

These are all judgments you might feel so strongly about you believe them to be true. While they might be your personal truth at the time, they are not facts, no matter how strongly you believe them to be true.

It all starts with an event or stimulus. Something happens that gives us a certain experience.

Then, we react to our experience by making meaning of it and forming judgments.

Then, our judgments stimulate our emotions- mad, sad, glad, fear, shame.

And this all happens in the blink of an eye.

We can then react consciously or unconsciously. If we react unconsciously we will act out our feelings and judgments, whatever they are.

If we react consciously we will separate the facts from our feelings and judgments and then decide what meanings to make and actions to take. This begins by reviewing the facts in your head and making sure you’re not mixing in judgments.

STEP ONE: REVIEW THE FACTS

“OK, the sky is blue, we’re walking in the park together, the temperature is about 76 degrees, I just said “It’s a beautiful day” and my friend said “No, it sucks.”

STEP TWO: REVIEW YOUR JUDGMENTS

“Hmm, I believe it’s a gorgeous day, walking here is wonderful, and I judge that my friend isn’t getting it at all.”

STEP THREE: IDENTIFY YOUR FEELINGS

“I’m glad it’s such a beautiful day, sad that my friend is troubled and not enjoying it, frustrated and angry at their negativity.”

STEP FOUR: MAKE A CONSCIOUS CHOICE

Once you’ve separated the facts from your judgments and feelings you are in a much better position to decide what to think, feel, and how to react. Notice in the above example that the judgments and feelings are mixed, which is common. If you are conscious you can choose amongst the mix of judgments and feelings that you will embrace and act upon, and which you will discard or leave alone.

In the above example you might decide to focus upon your sadness that your friend is having a bad day and choose a compassionate response, and to discard your judgment that they aren’t “getting it.”

THE POWER OF TAKING OWNERSHIP

It is our nature to have lots of thoughts, judgments, and feelings; some that we want to identify with, and some that we don’t. It is common to confuse judgments with facts because we believe them so strongly. It is common to confuse feelings with judgments as well (e.g. “I feel like you’re so wrong about that!”). It is common to have conflicting reactions, such as “You’re a jerk” and “I love you” at the same time. While our experience is involuntary and overwhelmingly strong and real for us at times, as conscious beings we can pick and choose our truth and what we say and do about it.

Therefore, we are responsible for what we feel, think, say, and do. There are no victims in the conscious adult world. Taking ownership gives us power over our choices and destiny, and thus is the key to a successful and happy life and relationship.

Copyright (c) 2007 David Steele

David Steele, MA, LMFT is founder of Relationship Coaching Institute and author of Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life in Today’s World. For free live Conscious Relationship tele-seminars, e-programs, audio programs and much more for singles and couples visit Conscious Relationship Resources

Obesity has become a cause for concern and now has people searching for tactics to lose weight. No matter what people seem to being doing to lose weight, whether it be joining a weight loss club; drinking those weight loss drinks or choosing between the many programs and dietary regiments, obesity is still a growing situation.

If you have seen Kevin Trudeau’s infomercial for his new book, you may be wondering whether it really does provide the cure. Some of the methods and ideas he has are not new, especially regarding his ideas about pharmaceutical companies. But he has revealed many holistic treatments and remedies in his previous books that have been extremely successful for a great number of people.

His new weight loss cure book is no different. What Kevin reveals in this book is how to lose weight without any sort of crazy fad diets, dangerous pills, or other sketchy weight loss practices.

To prove to skeptics that these cures are effective, he utilized the protocols, and was able to lose 45 pounds in just six short weeks. As revealed in his infomercial, this didn’t involve any exercise, his eating habits changed significantly and his energy levels skyrocketed. Once you use the protocol revealed in the book, your metabolism will speed up, burning more fat - and you won’t feel as hungry.

If you were able to see Kevin Trudeau’s infomercial, then you noticed the dramatic changes in his weight, along with his youthful appearance. He had tried many weight loss programs in the past with no success. He would lose the weight, but always gain it back right away.

If you are at all interested in losing weight, or you have tried to lose weight in the past and failed - this is the book for you. Some of the many reasons why people can’t seem to lose weight is because of thyroid problems. Others have trouble because of an imbalance in blood sugar. Regardless of the reason, his natural cures may be the answer. Of course, you should always meet with your doctor before you begin any weight loss plan where your weight drops as quickly as Trudeau’s did.

The bottom line is, Kevin’s weight loss cure book might just be the solution you’ve been searching for, especially if you aren’t keen to the idea of unhealthy fad diets, risky weight loss pills or drastic surgeries.

Interested in learning more about how New York Times best selling author Kevin Trudeau lost over 50 pounds in just 60 days? You’ll get more info about Kevin’s new book The Weight Loss Cure, by visiting weightlossisnatural.com

Every year you run across a headline lamenting the downfall of the book. Fewer people read books and competition from other media like movies and computer games suck up more market share. Despite the truth of this trend, books persist as a beloved form of entertainment for a significant number of people. A Hollywood blockbuster often deserves to be popular, but there really is nothing like a good book.

An extensive survey of book readership among Americans was conducted by the National Endowment for the Arts. Published in 2004, the study found that book readership had declined by 10 percent between 1982 and 2002. Discouraging as this drop in readership is, the study reported that 45 percent of Americans read novels, nonfiction books, poetry, and short stories. This equals approximately 93 million people who are reading, which means that books still have a viable market — a portion of which is quite devoted.

The strength of a book’s appeal is found in its ability to engage the mind. As you read, you begin to hear the characters speak, share their emotions, and care about what will happen next. Reading is a tremendously intimate form of communication because it allows you to think, feel, and imagine all at the same time. And the dynamism of the experience can continue even when the book is not in your hands. When you are forced to put down an enthralling narrative, you will continue to think about what may happen and crave your next opportunity to get back to the book.

The book is also the best medium for conveying a narrative of great complexity. A book can accommodate many characters acting along multiple subplots whereas the time-constrained window of a movie can be overwhelmed by narrative complexity. Richness of detail and nuance swell from books like the limb of a tree heavy with ripe fruit.

The stimulation, whether fanciful or intellectual, that you receive from a good book leads you into one of the most powerful qualities of the medium: addiction. Upon finishing a book you liked, you generally will want another good book to read. It is as if once your brain has traveled the imaginative pathways of a narrative, it wants to keep going through the labyrinth of possibility. Basically, reading leads to wanting to read. Once you start reading regularly, your brain begins to feel bereft of stimulation if you stop reading, and other media cannot quite fulfill the need.

Although books have admittedly lost market share amid other spectacular media options, books — defined as long written narratives — will surely endure. Many movies and computer games are based on written works. Consider the recent blockbuster “300″ that was adapted artfully from Frank Miller’s graphic novel. All entertainment mediums pull water from the deep and generous well of books because it is a story that inspires not special effects.

For readers of fantasy books wishing to enjoy the prolonged thrill of an epic fantasy series, take a look at The Rys Chronicles at http://www.braveluck.com

The truth is there are many weight loss pills on the market today. Although some weight loss supplements are healthy and effective in helping people lose weight, some pills have harmful side effects.

Ever since the Hoodia 60 Minutes feature, many people have been using Hoodia gordonii capsule to lose weight. In fact, hoodia pills were also featured on other television programs such as CNN and Oprah. Are hoodia weight loss pills really effective?

Hoodia diets are based on a natural plant that grows in the Kalahari Desert in South Africa. The Hoodia plant has special molecules that are powerful appetite suppressants. Diets that are based on natural products such as Hoodia are the best because they don’t have side effects on the users. While Hoodia is the one of the best natural weight loss pills, you will need to also healthy foods and exercise regularly if you want to keep the weight off.

In order to understand the simple fact behind successfully losing weight, you must know that you gain weight when the amount of calories you consume in your food is higher than the amount of calories that you burn or use through physical activity.

The only effective way of losing weight is therefore to make sure that the calories you consume everyday is less than or equal to the calories that you burn through physical activity. If you eat excess calories which your body does not burn through physical activity, these calories are stored in your body as fat, which causes you to gain weight.

To lose weight permanently and keep it off there are certain foods you must avoid, and there are certain foods that are good for your health that you must eat more of. You must look at your diet and change it so that you are getting more of the food that is good for you and less of the food that is bad for you. You must follow a balanced and healthy diet that consists of lots of vegetables and fruits.

It appears that following the hoodia 60 Minutes, hoodia weight loss pills have been helping many people to lose weight. The characteristics of the hoodia extract make it an effective herb for losing weight.

However, you will also need to exercise and eat healthy foods to make sure that you lose weight and keep it off. Hoodia gordonii capsule has actually helped many people to lose weight.

Nikki Montgomery is a weight loss expert who has helped many people to lose weight. For more free tips about how to lose weight and for a detailed hoodia weight loss pill review, visit http://www.hoodia-weight-loss-pill-review.com

MY GOSH! I have almost hit 300 pounds and I realized I am fat!

Does this story sound as if you wrote it? I mean does it sound as if this is your life too?

For years I have been talking about getting fat and trying to change my lifestyle and get fit. But today I woke up and I am a fat person. I can remember when I was in the U.S.M.C. and truly was a lean machine. Now I am the person I never thought I would become. I AM FAT.

I now top the scale to right under 300 pounds and I am 6′1″ tall. I have tried all of the diets and tried all of the fads. Now I am going to try it the good old fashioned way. I am going to eat better and exercise more. I will put away the pizza and I will take on the fruit.

I have read so many books about how to lose weight. I have tried many diets. Heck, it took me 12 days before I realized I could not live without carbs in my life. After some research I felt as if colon cleansing is nothing more than a scam. Every time I mention the word “diet” I think my body and mind go into overdrive and I have to eat even more. The word diet truly has become a four letter word to me.

Today I hurt my back and it is because of the spare tire I am lugging around. My blood pressure is up and the ever present threat of diabetes lingers.

So, today, 7 April 2007 I have made a pledge to my wife and to the public that I will achieve weight loss. I invite you to join me and share the stories of what is or is not working in your life. I intend to push past all the hype and all the marketing and once again become a healthy weight and maintain the weight.

Please follow me on this life saving journey. All are welcome to join in on this personal trip. I need the motivation and the attention to help me, and my wife succeed. If you are like me and have tried and tried and tried and tried and tried and tried and tried to lose weight, and have failed, then your are like me.

I want to create a culture for those who have tried all the diets and they just do not work. I want you to push me ahead while I pull you along.

I will offer updates and tips and discussion in future articles. I would love to be able to share stories of those who are like me. I want to hear from all the skinny people trapped inside fat bodies.

http://www.Ichoosethin.com

Keith Quackenbush is a graduate of St. John’s University, New York. He has spent considerable amount of time traveling throughout the world for the United States Government as a Marine Officer. He has spent most of his time being educated in life through his very existence. Currently spends too many hours per week in big box retail management.

Being a teacher who has moved from New York to Florida I am often asked to compare the two…actually I find myself comparing the New York school system to the Florida school system even if I’m not asked .

The truth is though, the two systems are so different it is difficult to draw any concrete conclusions…as my dad would say, “It’s like comparing apples and oranges”. However, recently I did get a taste of what I really miss about teaching in New York…small class sizes.

Due to a school trip over 40 of my students were absent from school last week. Normally on days like this I just show a movie and write it up to a lost day of teaching. However, this day I decided to teach the lesson as planned and had the absent students simply make up the missing assignments. This made for some very small classes that day and made teaching an absolute delight. In fact, the students themselves said the same thing. I couldn’t help but think back to my days teaching in New York.

I guess I should not make generalizations…there may be many New York schools that have large classes, I just happened to be lucky enough to teach at a school with small classes. Just to give you an example, my last year teaching in New York I had 80 students spread out over 5 classes for an average of 16 students per class. This year, teaching in Florida, I have 132 students spread out over 6 classes for an average of 22 students per class.

Now, of course, 22 students is not really something to complain about, but remember, they are spread out over SIX classes.

When my current school district decided to have all their middle school teachers teach six classes instead of the five we taught the previous year, the middle schools in the county were able to reduce their class sizes…which is good. However, my overall number of students actually increased from 112 the previous year to 132 this school year…not good.

What I think so many people don’t understand about the importance of class size is that it is not just the individual class numbers that are important, but it also the overall numbers that are important. An increase in the overall number of students forces the teacher to spend more time on grading essays, tests, homework etc. and less time creating and developing effective lessons.

However, whether we are talking about a teacher’s overall number of students or individual class size numbers, the fact of the matter is, large numbers are bad for both the student and the teacher.

You see, one of the most important factors governing student learning is the student-teacher relationship. However, not only is the student-teacher relationship one of the most important factors, but it is also one of the most overlooked factors.

No one should underestimate the impact that the student-teacher relationship has on student learning.

Unfortunately, in my opinion, the biggest problem with having large classes is not the added amount of grading and administrative tasks, it is not the added classroom management problems….the biggest problem with large classes is simply that it deteriorates the student-teacher relationship.

Want to improve your relationship with your students? To gain an arsenal of effective teaching strategies that will improve your relationship with your students, make sure to read “eTeach: A Teacher Resource for Learning the Strategies of Master Teachers” @ http://www.TeachingTeacher.com

The latest way of shopping an online is through a portal. An online shopping portal is an entrance to many major and minor online stores and other shopping mall. The difference between shopping in a conventional shopping mall and a portal is that the portal offers cash back for shopping this way. Its like entering a conventional shopping mall and being given a coupon book for every store.

These types of online shopping malls offer merchandise in almost every category and sub-category. Some categories include arts and music, computers and accessories, health and beauty, home and garden, leisure and hobby, office and business and even travel agencies. It is truly a one-stop shopping experience and you get money back for each purchase. There are stores that offer monthly specials and stores that offer free shipping and free merchandise.

Some savings examples would be to go to stores like Target and get 3% cash back, Golf Gallaxy and get 3% cash back, BabiesRUs and get 3.5% cash back, Restaurant and get 40% off Dining Certificates and an additional 7.5% cash back on top of that. This is only a small number of examples you can find a shopping portal. There are 600 + stores in 27 different categories to choose from. You certainly should be able to find something in a store like this.

As you can see, this is a truly money saving way to shop. Often times the savings are enough to pay for the shipping. There are even monthly specials that offer free shipping so the savings would be even more. How would anyone go wrong?

Visit http://www.sturgemall.com to experience this type of shopping.

To check out a great oneline shopping mall, see http://www.sturgemall.com

Jerome Sturgeleski started an online shopping mall portal to allow everyone to shop great name brand stores and get rebates from purchase they make. In the mall there are many stores covering many different categories. Its sure to statisfy almost everyone’s shopping needs.

I have been in the indoor air quality and HEPA air cleaner / air purifier industry since 1989. Ever since my entrance into this growing industry concerns for improved indoor air quality have been soaring! When I first started to provide HEPA air cleaners to our customers the big concern was for regular house hold allergies that came from dust, pollen, pet dander and smoke. Then in the early 1990’s scientists discovered how dust-mite allergen and out-gassing chemicals from carpeting, glues and other common household building materials can play havoc for people with allergies, asthma COPD and even create chronic, disabling immune dysfunctions. This brought even more people into the indoor air quality picture!

Higher quality brands of HEPA air cleaners and air purifiers came onto the market, now with increased air exchange rates per hour and pounds of activated carbon and Zeolite to absorb dangerous out-gassing chemicals from the indoor environment. Environmental physicians came onto the scene to diagnose and treat people with environmental illnesses. Companies that specialized in detecting and remediation of sick indoor environments starting multiplying to help the people suffering from the many environmental illnesses that were being discovered and on the increase!

The Growing Need To Control Airborne Molds, Bacteria And Viruses

Today’s newest generation of HEPA air cleaners and air purifiers have a new and greater task to perform and the technology is already in place and doing its job. The new trend for HEPA air cleaners and air purifiers is not just for capturing airborne allergens and out-gassing chemicals; they also have the ability to KILL MOLD SPORES, BACTERIA and VIRUSES! Toxic molds and bacteria’s in indoor environments have been on the increase due to improper construction of homes and commercial buildings and by environmental disasters caused by floods, hurricanes and tornados. Homes, schools, hospitals and office building environments are all being affected by dangerous strains of molds and bacteria. New strains of dangerous airborne viruses are on the increase and so is the threat of a deadly Pandemic such as the SARS virus or the Avian Flu also known as Bird Flu.

The Answer
There are two different types of technology that are now used in HEPA filtered air purifiers that will control dust, allergens, other particulates and now biological contaminates in indoor air environments They are UV {Ultra-Violet} lights that are aimed into the intake side of the HEPA filter and EGF {Enhanced Germicidal Filtration} that works by permeating 100% of the filter with 18 Kilovolts of electricity. Both technologies are able to effectively kill and prevent mold spores, bacteria and viruses from surviving in the filter media of the air purifier only allowing 100% clean germ free air to enter back into your indoor environment. The two air purifiers to look for is the TRACS HEPA air purifier using the UV {Ultra-Violet} light technology and the Bio-Net HEPA air purifier that uses the EGF {Enhanced Germicidal Filtration} technology. These units are so effective they are used in hospitals to protect people going through organ transplants and chemotherapy that cannot be exposed to biological contaminants. However with the growing concern for clean air in indoor environments many of these top quality air purifiers are now being used in homes to protect families and in office spaces to protect workers.

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Cleaning The Air You Live With

Whether it is choosing a flower for your anniversary, or looking for the best flower to let her know that you are sorry for an argument, flowers have meanings and choosing a flower based upon its significance shows her that you are genuinely interested in her feelings and shows that you have a romantic side. So next time you choose a flower, bouquet, or even a plant choose one that is appropriate for the occasion or compliments your heartfelt apology, expresses your truest feelings of love, or compliments your fiery passion. Choosing flowers for anniversaries based upon their meanings are also a wonderful gift that any woman will welcome with open arms. Here is a list of flowers associated with anniversaries.

1st Anniversary - Pansy
2nd Anniversary - Cosmos
3rd Anniversary - Fuchsia
4th Anniversary - Geranium
5th anniversary - Daisy
6th Anniversary - Calla Lily
7th Anniversary - Jack -in -the - Pulpit
8th Anniversary - Clematis
9th Anniversary - Poppy
10th Anniversary - Daffodil
11th Anniversary - Morning Glory
12th Anniversary - Peony
13th Anniversary - Hollyhock
14th Anniversary -Dahlia
15th Anniversary - Rose
20th anniversary - Day Lily
25th Anniversary - Iris
28th Anniversary - Orchid
30th Anniversary - Sweet Pea
40th Anniversary - Nasturtium
50th Anniversary - Violet

Along with anniversaries, each flower also has its own significance. Here is a list of flowers and their meanings.

Acacia - chaste love
Ambrosia - reciprocal love
Amaryllis - pride
Anemone - forsaken
Arbutus - one true love
Aster - daintiness
Azalea - fragile passion; Chinese symbolism for womanhood
Bachelor Button - single blessedness
Begonia - beware
Bells of Ireland - good fortune or luck
Bittersweet - truth
Bluebell - humility
Cactus -endurance
Pink Camellia - longing for your love
Red Camellia - you are a flame in my heart
White Camellia - you are adorable
Carnation - woman love
Pink Carnation - I’ll never forget you
Red Carnation - My heart aches for you
Purple Carnation - capriciousness
Solid Carnation - yes
Striped Carnation - Wish I could be with you, or Sorry that we are not together
White Carnation - pure love, innocence, sweet
Yellow Carnation -rejection, disappointment
Cattail - peace, prosperity
Chrysanthemum - a good friend
White Chrysanthemum - truth
Yellow Chrysanthemum - slighted love
Crocus - cheerfulness
Cyclamen - good bye
Daffodil - unrequited love
Daisy - innocence, purity
Dandelion - happiness
Fern - Confidence
Flax - domestic
Forget -Me -Not - true love
Forsythia - anticipation
Gardenia - secret love
Geranium - stupidity
Gladioli - flower of the gladiator
Gloxinia - love at first sight
Lavender Heather - admiration, solitude
White Heather - Protection
Holly - defense
Hyacinth - sports
Blue Hyacinth - constancy
Purple Hyacinth - I’m sorry, apologetic
Red or Pink Hyacinth - Play
White Hyacinth - I’m praying for you
Yellow Hyacinth - jealousy
Hydrangea - heartlessness
Iris - friendship, wisdom, valor
Ivy - fidelity, affection
Jonquil - returned affection
Pink Larkspur - fickleness
White Lily - virginity, purity
Yellow Lily - false and gay
Calla Lily - beauty
Day Lily - Chinese symbol for motherhood
Tiger Lily - Wealth
Lily of the Valley - humility
Magnolia -nobility
Marigold - Grief
Narcissus - egotism
Orange Blossom - eternal love
Orchid - Beautiful woman
Petunia - resentment, anger
Poppy - eternal sleep
Rose - love
Pink rose - perfect happiness
Red Rose - I love you
Rose without thorns - Love at first sight
White Rose - innocence, purity
White and Red Rose Mix - Unity
Yellow Rose -Jealousy
Rosebud - Beauty, youth
Red Rosebud - purity
White Rosebud - girlhood
Bouquet of Full Roses - gratitude, thanks
Single Full bloom rose - I love you
Red Tulip - Believe Me
Yellow Tulip - beautiful smile
Violet - modesty
Blue Violet - faithfulness
Zinnia - lasting affection

Ron Zvagelsky has a degree in Business Administration from the University of Southern California. Use PlanJam.com to find additional dating and relationship advice along with things to do.