Each of us have bundle of weaknesses or flaws, there will be certain point in any circumstances that may weaken us. And usually we tend to hide, resent them or find excuses to deliberately ignore our weaknesses. We are not honest to our self most of the time we pretend that its mundane to encounter such feeling moreover we let the day pass having such thorn in our life. Weakness is not a sin or a character defect that we can change, we are not super bright or talented, all have limitations. No matter how we define our self as an adventurous, fighter we still have limitations, being weak in some point is not a defeat, some of our weakness is others strength and vice versa. We should not pity of feel down if we are not able to endeavor some task or situation because our weakness comes in our way. Instead its one way of overcoming too much pressure we put in our self by which this circumstances are not meant for us to do, there will always be one meant for us to conquer to be completed.
To find strength in our weakness we must admit our weaknesses, this is hard to some people to do since we live in a society where people have the notion to have an impression to others on there first meeting. But facing our weaknesses and not denying them, makes us know more about our self, it takes crisis to make us admit this. Finding strength in our weakness may be complicated in some point or this won’t make sense at all. Pessimist individual are likely to think this way, but as an optimist who holds empathy to consider others urge to do better in life may conclude that weaknesses keep our egos in check it also prevent arrogance, with this limitation who acts to govern us from being a big headed person who runs to fast to be ahead.
No man is an island; with our weakness this enables us to have one another. With our weak strand that makes us frail undoubtfully makes us compassionate, meaning we could function effectively. Our weakness may cause us to let go sometimes, that we are not able to solve or hold on to situations we find too much for us to handle. We may be deeply hurt that healing of wounds is difficult to find, all we see is darkness, that no one is able to comfort us or we are just reluctant to share so that we will be transformed it indeed takes time to heal but its up to us to get over such feeling. So that we could pick our self up and start a new life, every one has deep insecurities but valor is achieved through honesty in our self. We are vulnerable the more we take our mask and share what we have gone through our weakness is turned into our strength.
To lower our defenses is a bit scary, to open up to others revealing our failures, frustration, rejection and fears may kind of humiliating but if we hold our head up high. Since we are all humans every one have the same concerns. Vulnerability is emotionally liberating. Opening up is the first step to freedom, defuses fears, relieves stress and makes us free of being worry most of the time. Through this process we find humility in our inner self we feel light with in, but many misunderstood humility.
Humility is not denying our self with our self or putting our self down rather its all being honest about our weaknesses, the more honest we are in our self the more we will receive grace from others. Vulnerability is an endearing quality a pathway to intimacy. If other people sees our strength most of the time they may get discourage or barriers are build in between, because it creates competition. But with our weaknesses we build a community. In our life the decision whether we must impress or influence people must be made, we are able to impress people from a distant but we must get closer to influence them, but through this other are to see our flaws but with credibility in us which is essential of leading trust is earned. Don’t run from consequences if you happen to face scheming insignificant situation instead deal with it don’t pose as invisible.
I’m not pointing out to let weakness stay as it is but turning it to positive outlook with thorough self-examination and deep acceptance of our strength and weaknesses. This is like a helping hand to focus not only on our self but also being aware of the needs of those around us. There is a lot of self help books published to help improve our weaknesses, authors and coaches giving talks to turn weakness to strength but they don’t solely ponder on the main problem which is the acceptance of our self that indeed we are weak in one way or another. Honesty to our self is undeniably takes a lot more than strength to do but rather acceptance of the truth. Truth hurts but to pursue the genuine improvement of one self we must do so. For in the world we are in we need to face the fact to be better in our so-called society whom our life depend and as well as other people.