Understand that any anger or frustration is a sign of pain; I am suffering, in torment. The reason or cause of anger is usually deep seated and may well be due to not receiving enough love when a vulnerable child. So the frustration grows during life.

The cause of anger can be due to regret over ones life: not having lived a satisfying life. You may have wasted time, missed great opportunities or been obstructed by circumstances and other people. The list can be almost endless. If you feel you have wasted all your life or even only some of it then that regret or even repentance manifests as anger. It’s a dissatisfaction or frustration with the self.

Anger is a learnt response that you use, probably self taught but also picked up by seeing parents using anger in order to make things happen. See young children and you may notice that they also can have so much anger. It means that they are getting influenced at an extremely young age. Some experts even conclude that the first influences or causes of anger are within the womb where the child is picking up the vibrations of anger from the mother and other people around. Of course it would not be just anger. If there is a very loving environment that the mother to be keeps her self in then the child is getting the benefit of that.

The influences of society are a major cause of anger. Adults and especially children are getting influenced by the peer group and family and friends. We are all learning off each other about how to respond to people and situations in life. As the general response is prone towards anger so it is much easier to learn to use anger than to use peace, calmness or tolerance.

Another important cause of anger is Media. From a very young age we are being ‘educated’ to believe that anger is a reasonable way to respond. It’s in the cartoons, comic books, films and tv series, newspapers and journals and so the list goes on

So with so many reasons as the cause of anger revealed so far plus many that have not been mentioned is it possible to manage anger and if so how? It is of course not only possible to manage anger but once we have decided that it has to be done it is actually not as difficult as we might imagine. Also we can learn how to manage the anger that is coming from other people that is often the cause of anger in the self.

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