I’ve invested a great deal of time, money and energy in Personal Development courses. It doesn’t matter what kind or what company because they all resulted in the same thing: awareness.
I’m not saying that awareness is a bad thing but I was really looking for more. I fell into the trap that there was something wrong with me and this was going to fix it…. Immediately. I was wrong of course.
I also felt that it was a lot of money for such a minor thing to be revealed to me. They promised more than just awareness but my mind was numbed for several years before I realized that I was not much further ahead than when I started out on this journey of personal awareness.
I learned all sorts of things about myself: how I communicate, what it meant to be attractive, how to create a support network, and what exactly made me tick. Notice I didn’t say motivate or inspire. I thought I left inspired but I found the only way I could keep the energy up was to volunteer to coach in the programs and THAT was a lot of work – for free. I was back to square two, square one being the awareness stage.
There is nothing more painful than being aware, knowing what you want to do next or where to go but running out of steam. There is nothing more painful than realizing there is no quick fix involved in this. So I started back at the beginning.
I knew what I valued but when talking with clients; I found this to be misleading and such an overused word. I found that calling them the Elements of their Personality made much more sense. Their personality was driven by these powerful little words. Words like passion, power, integrity, creativity resonated with a lot of people.
These words described to them, what made up “who they were” but finding this out never inspired or motivated them for very long. And of course it never motivated me for long either. I realized that what I ended up with were clients who were dependent on ME to motivate them. Sometimes that even backfired in my face. People don’t always want to be told how to stay motivated and be inspired. They want to create their own inspiration. They didn’t always believe that but it was true.
So knowing their Elements, and mine of course, was nice to know. It was a useful tool to decide WHAT I wanted to do but then I and my clients would come to a screeching halt. It was embarrassing to sometimes not be able to help them get exactly where they wanted to go. What was even more embarrassing was to realize the wall I was up against. I had a computer full of assessment tools and articles but nothing to inspire me or my clients. Not to mention I wasn’t exactly the role model of personal growth.
It was several years of searching until I found out what I needed to know about inspiration and motivation. I talk a lot about it in my earlier articles but it was definitely the missing link in permanent change.
I still do work with Elements, Boundaries and Standards but it is all built around the premise of self-awareness. The work of inspiration and motivation I leave up to my clients. It isn’t always a quick journey and none of my clients ever need to get fixed but they leave a conversation, with me, inspired and motivated to actually do something with all this awareness we went through together.
Maureen Miller B.Ed., C.U.G.,
Associate Certified Coach
Certified Teleclass Leader
Coaching Personally
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