Online dating mistakes are common, so don\’t get discouraged. How many emails have you written to women, without responses? Probably lots. But that\’s Ok, I have too! However, once you understand the main reasons WHY she doesn\’t write you back, you\’ll be able to ramp up your email game and start to get a lot more replies!

1. You didn\’t get her attention.

She gets a TON of emails, every day. Hot women on busy sites can get easily over a hundred a day. That\’s some serious competition! If you don\’t get her attention fast, you\’ll be forgotten instantly and she\’ll move on without replying. And how do you do it? Be interesting, insightful, interested in her, and funny as hell!

For other tips on how to write an email, see my other article on How To Write A Seductive Email. See below for links.

2. She thinks you are shallow.

Hot women know that most guys are just contacting them because they are hot. As much as it\’s an ego boost for them, knowing you think they are hot doesn\’t them any real reason to write you back.

• Don\’t ask for sexier photos of her.

• Don\’t kiss her butt and tell her how hot she is over and over.

• Don\’t ask her how much she weighs… EVER.

• Don\’t ask for body shots of her (until several emails later)

3. Your photo sucks.

It doesn\’t matter how great your email is, if your picture makes you look like a sack of crap, you aren\’t getting a response. Before you start worrying about your looks, there are two things you need to know… First, a bad photo will make the hottest guy look ugly, second, the right photo can make you look great. One great photo will make or break your online dating results.

For rules of how to have a great online dating photo, see below for link.

4. You were crass, rude, or sexual.

A lot of things can turn a girl off, but few like being crass, rude, or sexual. She\’s a woman, not one of your buddies, so don\’t try to get her attention by shock value. Yes, it works from time to time, but for the most part, she\’ll just delete your email.

• Don\’t use any four letter words… you know the ones I mean.

• Don\’t ask her what her favorite sex position is.

• Don\’t ask her about her erotic fantasies.

• Don\’t ask if she has any nude photos.

5. You throw up her red flags.

She doesn\’t want your baggage and insecurities. She definitely doesn\’t want to hear you crying about them in your email. So forget even mentioning your ex, your problems, your addictions, your failures or your insecurities… Never email her more than once before she replies, you aren\’t going to change her mind by looking needy.

• Don\’t email her more than once in between her replies.

• Don\’t talk about your exes.

• Don\’t talk about the bad dates you have had.

• Don\’t talk about why you think online dating sucks.

6. She\’s just not that into you.

No matter what you do, some girls just aren\’t going to be that into you. Maybe she only dates short dorky poor guys, maybe you remind her of her brother, you\’ll probably never know.

If you present yourself in your best light, have a great photo, display your personality and value as a man… and she still doesn\’t email you back? It\’s her, not you.

On the other hand, if your profile isn\’t polished to perfection, you don\’t have the best photo you could possibly have, and you aren\’t writing emails that shine like diamonds against coal… you\’ve got some work to do.

Happy dating!

Other Online Dating articles by Dylan Alexander:

How To Write Seductive Emails:
http://www.onlinecasanova.com/dynamic_emails.php

How To Have A Ridiculously Hot Online Dating Photo:
http://www.onlinecasanova.com/dating_photos.php

Dylan Alexander has been meeting women online since the pre-internet days of computer BBS systems. He\’s currently part of a company called Way Of Attraction Inc. that teaches men the art of being attractive to women naturally, without deceit or headgames. He took what he knew of online communication, and women and attraction and began to complile it all into a book called Online Casanova. The book teaches not just the philosophy of online attraction, but specifically how to create it through writing techniques. Although it is written primarily for men, women have also found it life changing when it comes to their online dating problems.

His book can be found here:
http://www.onlinecasanova.com