Valentine’s Day Real Cougar Style
As a woman who has seen a lot of Valentine’s come and go I say it’s time to turn this much ballyhooed commercial extravaganza into a 365 day celebration of the heart.
Women yearn for romance, understanding and tenderness and not just for one day a year when it’s the thing to do.. We really want our partner to find little ways to say how they love and appreciate us every day of the year. No matter how much some women deny how important it is to be nurtured, our hearts turn to mush when that special someone shows us how special we are.
And when it comes to sex, genuine caring and consideration is the greatest turn-on that there is. This is especially true for the Real Cougar, who is a smart, self-defined, self-sufficient woman. We don’t need or want empty, perfunctory presents thrown at us for Valentine’s Day. We want to feel that our husbands, partners or lovers have thought through what they can do to show us how much they love and honor us.
As we head into the Valentine’s Day season, here are some hints to get your man to tear himself away from the usual chocolates or roses. Use these tips to remind your baby what you want most.
Here’s a few suggestions to get you started. Now is the perfect time to start asking for what you really want.
1. Actions Speak Louder than Words. A cliche, yes, but only because it’s true. Can your beloved give you a day-or a week-off several times throughout the year? I don’t mean from the office necessarily. I mean a week off from everything you do to manage things on the home front. Women still do the lion’s share of housework, even though we work outside the home in nearly equal numbers as men. Can he make sure dinner’s taken care of for a week, the house is neat and orderly, the bills are paid, the clothes are dropped off and picked up from the cleaners? Can he say, for this week, Baby, I’m taking the heavy items off of your platter. There’s a added benefit here: if he finally understands-through direct experience-all that you manage each day-he’ll get how valuable you are.
2. But A Well-Placed Word Never Hurts. Imagine waking up every day with a beautiful, hand-written note, placed by your bedside? Or, coming back from a meeting to an email from him telling you how much-and why-he loves you? What a mid-afternoon pick-me-up!
3. Go on a Blind Date. I don’t mean go out with someone you’ve never met before. This is about having your mate take all the responsibilities that go into planning the perfect date. Let him work it all out, figure out what will make you smile, over and over again, from the top of the day to it’s final close. Let him find the out of the way, romantic enclave for a meal, a walk in the country or along the water. Let him design the whole beautiful day and then like that game we played as kids where we closed our eyes and fell back into someone’s arms, fall back into your man’s strong arms. Let him carry you, if just for a moment.
4. What’s on Your Bucket List? What are the things you always swore you’d do while you still could? Was there a city you always wanted to visit, a novel you always wanted to write? Did you want to dive off a cliff or out a plane, run the New York marathon? Whatever it was, you don’t have to wait any longer to do it! Talk about your still unrealized dreams and desires with your man and then let him help you see them through. If you always wanted to write, here’s the perfect time for him to pitch and help you find a workshop or ensure that your time is cleared for several hours a week so you can sit and the computer and chip away at the creating the next great American novelist. Let him find the perfect cliff in Mexico or Jamaica where cliff diving is safe. Let him help you. Encourage him to be step up to the plate and be your partner.
5. Don’t Underestimate the Healing Power of Sex. Romance is great and romance with great sex is even better. Too many couples are putting this time to connect the back burner. When was the last time you made love? And, did your toes curl or was it just ho hum? Getting back the knock-your-socks off excitement will do wonders for your relationship. A lot of pent up emotion can dissipate with a good roll in the hay. Talk to your man and tell him what he can do to make it wonderful for you and then return the favor. Maybe you both could try for the one-hour orgasm. Even if you can’t quite make it imagine the fun you will have trying.
Making Valentine’s Day a 365 day celebration will change your life. It’s never too late to experience the love and affection you have always dreamed of. Make this February 14 your New Year. The Year of the Real Cougar!
Linda Franklin is a writer and an advocate for women over 40. Visit her website http://www.highyieldliving.com and receive a free copy of her book “39 Reasons Baby Boomers Will Always Be 39″. Her blog http://www.boomersmakingadifference.com brings you cutting edge information every women needs to know. Become a member of the the Real Cougar Club a social community where women who are smart, confident, independent and know how to get what you want share their tips http://www.realcougarclub.com Linda’s believes “aging is inevitable - how we age is always our choice”.
Before starting High-Yield Living Linda was the first Canadian women to own her seat on the New York Stock Exchange. She was a partner in a Wall Street investment firm for over 20 years.