So you’re ready to find your ideal soulmate but this time you don’t want to leave it to chance. By giving your unconscious mind a list of things you want and absolutely do not want in a relationship you can attract your ultimate relationship to you by following a few simple steps.
1. Learn to love yourself.
You can’t give to other people what you haven’t learned to give yourself. How do you expect any one else to cherish you, love you and adore you when you do not treat yourself in this way?
All relationships start with YOU.
Write down 10 things that you love about being you.
Write down 10 of the wonderful qualities that you have.
Write down 10 things that you can do to show your appreciation for you.
2. Select the qualities you need in a relationship.
When looking for anything in life be it a person, and object, a job or a holiday you first have to decide EXACTLY what it is that you are looking for. Otherwise you will just drift, never knowing if you have found the right one or not. It’s no different when looking for your ideal partner.
How do we normally meet someone? In a bar or club, at work maybe or because they share a common interest? We just both happened to be in the same place and were both needing someone. You hit it off, have something in common and the chemistry kicks in. It’s a whirlwind of emotions, you get together…time goes by and when the chemistry fades you’re left wondering why you’re together.
By setting out our wants, needs and must-haves in a relationship in advance we run a much lesser risk of spending a long time with the wrong person. When the chemistry kicks in and common sense disappears at least you have a pre-defined list of what you want to compare this person with to know if they are really what you were looking for. It’s so important to set out what we absolutely must have (and absolutely must NOT!) in advance if we are truly to find the Mr or Miss Right for us.
* Define your Ultimate Soulmate
Who is the man/lady of your dreams? What physical attributes do they have? What height are they? What weight? What colour hair and eyes? What age are they? What do they wear and look great in?
What career do they have? What kind of income?
What hobbies and interests do they have?
Should they have kids? Should they want kids? Should they have none and want none??
What characteristics do they have? Are they funny and witty? Intelligent? More intelligent than you or less intelligent than you? Do they like to keep fit or to relax a lot? Do they play sport or the PSP?
Are they vegetarian or a red-blooded meat eater? Do they like to socialise or are they quiet shy and retiring? Are they extrovert or introvert? Life and soul of a party or a wall flower?
Who is your ideal partner.
Which of these is a MUST and which would be great to have?
* Mate from hell!
Normally I would not even go to the negatives but here, well, it is SO important to have this list to combat making a poor partner decision when the chemistry is raging. List below all of the attributes this person must no way have. What will you absolutely not stand for in a person or relationship?
This one is probably easier than the first as we usually know what we don’t want better than what we do, so go on….make that list!
For example:-
I will absolutely NOT have a person who is abusive mentally or physically. No coach potatoes. No rudeness. No-one who is foul-mouthed. Etc.
Your turn.
* Define the Ultimate Relationship
Describe now the relationship you will have with your ideal person. What will you do together? Where will you go? What goals will you share. What will people say about you as a couple. Write down everything about your ideal relationship.
3. The final step
So here it is, the final step in the journey to finding your ideal mate.
No matter where you go and what you do to find this ideal mate your past relationships and your future ones all have one thing in common.
You take YOU with you.
So - in order to succeed in love….
What kind of person would YOU have to be to attract your ideal mate?
Like attracts like. That’s the basis of rapport and rapport gives us that deeper connection. You need to become the sort of person you would like to find. Describe the values, characteristics, conduct, and habits you would need in order to deserve the mate you just described.
So, I hope that you have written down the answers to all of the questions above. When you commit to finding this ideal person and become the person you want to be with some ting magical happens and I know from my experience that this absolutely works.
I wish you every success in finding true love and hope that you will share your experiences with us too.
Tracey Dowe is a qualified life coach, NLP Master practitioner and trainer with a mission to inspire others to find the best in themselves and to give the best of themselves. She has an uncanny knack of being able to ask just the right question at just the right times to enable clients to have the break throughs that they need. She not only loves what she does but get results too!
Tracey says “My own life has changed immeasurably in the last 5 years and I now live each day with boundless energy and passion for life, something that you’ll discover if you go to my web site at http://www.momentumpeople.co.uk and I love to inspire others to have the same joy and success in their lives too. It’s amazing just what each of us can achieve with even a little external encouragement and insight. I have a particular interest in developing strong leaders for the future both within businesses and organisations and within individuals - empowering them to take control of their lives and Lead rather than do what’s expected”.
Tracey is committed to giving you easy to follow strategies that will give you immediate results in your personal life, business, relationships and finances through coaching and training with Momentum People Ltd.