Online dating mistakes are common, so don’t get discouraged. How many emails have you written to women, without responses? Probably lots. But that’s Ok, I have too! However, once you understand the main reasons WHY she doesn’t write you back, you’ll be able to ramp up your email game and start to get a lot more replies!

1. You didn’t get her attention.

She gets a TON of emails, every day. Hot women on busy sites can get easily over a hundred a day. That’s some serious competition! If you don’t get her attention fast, you’ll be forgotten instantly and she’ll move on without replying. And how do you do it? Be interesting, insightful, interested in her, and funny as hell!

For other tips on how to write an email, see my other article on How To Write A Seductive Email. See below for links.

2. She thinks you are shallow.

Hot women know that most guys are just contacting them because they are hot. As much as it’s an ego boost for them, knowing you think they are hot doesn’t them any real reason to write you back.

• Don’t ask for sexier photos of her.

• Don’t kiss her butt and tell her how hot she is over and over.

• Don’t ask her how much she weighs… EVER.

• Don’t ask for body shots of her (until several emails later)

3. Your photo sucks.

It doesn’t matter how great your email is, if your picture makes you look like a sack of crap, you aren’t getting a response. Before you start worrying about your looks, there are two things you need to know… First, a bad photo will make the hottest guy look ugly, second, the right photo can make you look great. One great photo will make or break your online dating results.

For rules of how to have a great online dating photo, see below for link.

4. You were crass, rude, or sexual.

A lot of things can turn a girl off, but few like being crass, rude, or sexual. She’s a woman, not one of your buddies, so don’t try to get her attention by shock value. Yes, it works from time to time, but for the most part, she’ll just delete your email.

• Don’t use any four letter words… you know the ones I mean.

• Don’t ask her what her favorite sex position is.

• Don’t ask her about her erotic fantasies.

• Don’t ask if she has any nude photos.

5. You throw up her red flags.

She doesn’t want your baggage and insecurities. She definitely doesn’t want to hear you crying about them in your email. So forget even mentioning your ex, your problems, your addictions, your failures or your insecurities… Never email her more than once before she replies, you aren’t going to change her mind by looking needy.

• Don’t email her more than once in between her replies.

• Don’t talk about your exes.

• Don’t talk about the bad dates you have had.

• Don’t talk about why you think online dating sucks.

6. She’s just not that into you.

No matter what you do, some girls just aren’t going to be that into you. Maybe she only dates short dorky poor guys, maybe you remind her of her brother, you’ll probably never know.

If you present yourself in your best light, have a great photo, display your personality and value as a man… and she still doesn’t email you back? It’s her, not you.

On the other hand, if your profile isn’t polished to perfection, you don’t have the best photo you could possibly have, and you aren’t writing emails that shine like diamonds against coal… you’ve got some work to do.

Happy dating!

Other Online Dating articles by Dylan Alexander:

How To Write Seductive Emails:
http://www.onlinecasanova.com/dynamic_emails.php

How To Have A Ridiculously Hot Online Dating Photo:
http://www.onlinecasanova.com/dating_photos.php

Dylan Alexander has been meeting women online since the pre-internet days of computer BBS systems. He’s currently part of a company called Way Of Attraction Inc. that teaches men the art of being attractive to women naturally, without deceit or headgames. He took what he knew of online communication, and women and attraction and began to complile it all into a book called Online Casanova. The book teaches not just the philosophy of online attraction, but specifically how to create it through writing techniques. Although it is written primarily for men, women have also found it life changing when it comes to their online dating problems.

His book can be found here:
http://www.onlinecasanova.com

Like my previous article discussed why women break up with men, this article covers the opposite; why men break up with women.

Although some of these reasons may seem shallow, don’t worry; if your man found you sexy before, he can find you sexy again. You just need to find out what changed.

Has your man recently broke up with you and you don’t know why? Or maybe you just want to prevent future mistakes? This article should help you.

1. She’s Lost Her Sex Appeal - I know this sounds harsh, but it’s true. Have you recently ‘let go’? Have you revealed to him any disgusting habits? Although it sounds shallow, guys can break up with a girl simply because he doesn’t find her sexy anymore.

Don’t fret, though. If your appearance hasn’t changed, then it’s doubtful he’s found you less attractive all of a sudden. If your look has changed dramatically since you started dating him, and you know it, maybe he just lost interest.

The best way to get around this problem is to simply fix whatever it is that went wrong. If you’ve gained weight, in most cases, you can lose it again.

2. She’s Too High Maintenance - Do you need your guy with you every second of every day? Are you preventing him from going out by himself, and getting pissed off at him when he does? If he feels like he still lives with a mum, he’s going to run for the hills.

You should give him space, and time to himself. If you’re always with him, and always pestering him when he’s not, how is he ever going to miss you? The saying is true; absence does make the heart grow fonder.

Why not take up a new hobby? Not only will you have something to do while he’s away, but you’ll look forward to the time he’s not around, too. You’ll have your own ‘alone time’ that you can use to improve yourself or just have fun.

By the time you’re finished, you’ll be excited to see your man and tell him what you were up to while he was gone.

3. She’s Too Flirty - This is a less common reason, but one women should be aware of. If you’re always flirting with every guy you meet, or perhaps even cheating on him, he’s eventually going to catch on or get fed up with it.

Even if it’s a ‘casual’ relationship, a lot of guys won’t like it. Some guys, of course, have no problem with it. But if your guy seems upset, and you can’t think of a reason why, then consider who you’ve been spending time with recently.

If a guy thinks you might be cheating on him, even if it’s his own fault that he can’t trust you, he’s still going to back off and find someone he can feel more secure with.

As I always say, there are plenty more reasons why a guy might break up with a girl. Please don’t assume it must be because of one of these 3 reasons. I don’t want any pretty girls worrying over their looks!

However, if you do think it’s one of these 3 reasons, you’re luckier than most people suffering a break up; because in most cases each of these can be changed.

Perhaps you can fix whatever it was about your looks that changed? You can definitely fix the other 2 reasons if they’re the problem. Who knows? Maybe when you do, you’ll find your ex reconsidering the break up.

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“What Was I Thinking?! How Not to Date” author discusses her ups and downs in online dating.

Author, Annie Earley, recently penned a book “What Was I Thinking? How Not to Date” about her experiences with online dating. Earley said that the book discusses the matter with humor, but also points out the dangers. I posed questions to the author.

Q: Why did you decide to join an online dating group?

A: I decided to join an online dating group because my close friend suggested it might be a good way to meet someone. She met her husband through an online dating service.

Q: What advice would you give to women thinking about online dating?

A: Try to meet someone through a friend or just try to meet someone out and about and in person. If they really want to try online dating I would advise them to be very careful. Set up some guidelines and rules for safety and stick to them. Unfortunately, you can’t believe everything in a potential date’s profile.

Q: Any story that sticks out in your mind as either the best or the worst date?

A: I think the story that sticks out in my mind the most is the story about “Peter Lorre.” This story is an example of how you can think you’ve gotten to know someone through email and on the phone, and feel that you really connect, only to find that when you meet them in person you are frightened and fearing for your safety and feeling vulnerable. When things like this happen it does not do much for your self-esteem. I found myself feeling foolish.

Q: Are you still an active member of the online dating community? Or are you in a relationship/ seeing anyone special?

A: Actually, at the end of the book it tells how I met someone special through a friend and we got married six months later. I could add that although I stated in my book that I do not believe in “head over heels,” I now know that there is such a thing as a “soulmate I met him nine months after I decided to take a break from dating and had decided to just put it in God’s hands, so there may be some truth to the philosophy that when you stop looking, that is when you will meet someone.

Q: Why did you decide to write the book?

A: I decided to write a book about my experiences because as I was telling these stories to my family and friends the response was always the same, “You should write a book!” So I did. I also hoped that in sharing my experiences I might give someone encouragement, or at least let some men and women who are dating and going through similar experiences know that they are not alone.

Q: Why do you feel people should buy your book and how could they get a copy?

A: I feel that someone should buy my book if they are interested in trying online dating or are dating at all. Each chapter tells a story about one of the men I met or dated and contains humorous cartoons depicting some of these meetings. Some of the stories are humorous and some are not so funny. I would like to think that anyone who likes to read about relationships would enjoy it.

My book is available through Tribute Books (Eynon, PA), Amazon.com, Barnes and Noble and Borders.

Q: Any final words of wisdom?

A: I don’t know if these would be considered words of wisdom but I would say the following to anyone out there who is dating: Set standards for yourself relating to what you want in a relationship; especially how you want to be treated. Don’t settle for less because you are afraid of being lonely. . If you are lonely, find things to do to fill your life. Have trust in yourself and put your trust in God.

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Have you ever been through the situation of an awkward silence where you simply don’t know what to talk about and start looking around? And before you come up with something your date wants to leave? You see this happens a lot in the dating arena especially to guys who get very nervous on a date. Conversations can make your date awesome or make it a complete blunder just based on what you talk about therefore it is extremely important to know what to talk about around women. Read on to discover some of the most mind blowing ways on how to never run out of things to talk about around women and achieve earth shattering results…

Prepare yourself first- Well if you doubt you might fall into the silent zone it’s always good to prepare yourself before the date. Make a list of handy topics and make sure you remember them whenever you fall into the silent zone.

Ask her questions- This is probably the best way to keep the conversation going but make sure you don’t ask too many questions too early especially personal questions as that might end up offending her. Asking questions is also a good way of getting her involved and interested in the conversation as she would feel you are interested in something.

Add a lot of humor- Once you add some humor into the conversation topics instantly come up. You see when you are in a happy mood your brain instantly starts to function fast and you would be able to come up with more better topics than you ever thought possible. You see this normally happens as laughter helps you open up with the person and you start talking to your date on a personal level.

What you don’t know yet- Ever tried to wonder what’s in a woman’s mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don’t want men to know but men absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover some of the most “Shocking Secrets” women don’t want men to know- 9 Most Shocking Secrets Women don’t want men to know

Have you ever seen a hot woman and felt like approaching her but the moment you think about it you seem to stop yourself by thinking she seems so much more better than you and why would she even consider an average looking guy like you? Well this is something most men out there tend to go thought but guess what? You can still get to date any and every woman you please if you follow some simple basic steps. Your looks don’t matter and neither does you money make any difference. Read on to discover how you can date women beyond your league and achieve earth shattering results instantly…

You are good enough- This is the very first rule you need to follow. You see men who get rejected are the one’s who don’t seem to think they are good enough and if you have a mind set like that than you don’t deserve a woman. You see it’s all in the mind and that’s where it all starts. If you have the right mind set and you feel that you are good enough women will start thinking that you are good enough.

Don’t let them choose- Another problem most guys seem to have is that they tend to let the woman choose them instead of them choosing the woman. Once you give the female the power to choose you she automatically gets the power to reject you too at the same time therefore learn to express it to her that you have more than enough fish in the pond and she’s not the only female out there.

Approach without fear- When you approach them without any nerves or fear their response automatically changes. You see your confidence can do wonders while trying to approach a female. If you are confident than she would definitely say yes but if you are showing a lot of nerves than she might end up rejecting you.

What you don’t know yet- Ever tried to wonder what’s in a woman’s mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don’t want men to know but men absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover some of the most “Shocking Secrets” women don’t want men to know- 9 Most Shocking Secrets Women don’t want men to know

Many people in the olden days would get their dates from doing their day to day activities. Even your Mother and Father, they probably met at work or during a night out or while perusing one of their hobbies. Some people meet their dates at coffee shops and they turn to be their love of their life.

However, times have changed somewhat and more so over the last decade. Today it is not uncommon for people to go on dates from people they met on the internet. In-fact, by many today, this is considered normal. After all, who uses the internet? The answer is of course simple, people like you and me, that does not mean you should go meeting people as soon as you log on the internet. Extra care should always be taken because in the end, you don’t know anything about the new person you intend on meeting, so you need to be aware of ways of going about things more safely.

A good place to start would be at one of the wide array of adult dating sites online. Such places normally have a pre-screening method before they let people join. You normally have to provide a photo, some proof of who you are, and if you choose the premium services, some valid bank details to confirm that the person is who they claim.

You should be very cautious about meeting people in chat rooms because you really don’t know who you are taking to in such places. You could end up talking to someone who says they are something, but it turns out they are not telling you the truth. There are many horror stories about people meeting on the internet and one of the persons turns out to be someone completely different. Again, just try to use common sense before you go meeting that new person. Try a web cam, phone calls before hand so you have a better idea of what they look like.

We advise you always meet in a public place, such as coffee shop where there are lost of people. Try get to know the person. Many people have met their first loves on the internet from the various dating websites. Take caution and you could well end up meeting the love of your life.

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Imagine this scenario…

You’re nearing the end of the date and everything has gone really well. The two of you are walking to her door and you want to kiss her. But deep down inside, you wonder “should I kiss her now or wait till the next time I see her?”

Well if you’re like most guys, you’ve probably had moments where you wanted to kiss a girl, but you didn’t know if you should. While some ’seduction gurus’ say to always go for a kiss, I think it’s more important to find out if she wants to be kissed before initiating it.

Here’s why…

While it’s important to initiate a more physical relationship with a woman on a date, you should always make a decision if going for kiss will help or hinder the budding relationship.

First you should decide if you actually like the woman and want to see her again. If the date hasn’t gone well and you’re pretty much sure that you’re not going to see her again, then kissing will just make things awkward.

But if you had a great time, then kissing her is an excellent way to create a firmer bond and make things more physical.

Next you should figure out if you received the right kind of signals from her. If she has been giving you positive body language the whole night, then it means she wants to be kissed. The body language cues could include leaning towards you, being interested in everything you say and maintaining constant eye contact.

The final thing to evaluate is if there’s been physical contact with one another. In the dating environment, physical contact almost always demonstrates a level of attraction between a man and woman.

If she’s has been touching you to emphasize a point, it probably means she wants you to kiss her.

If you’ve seen these three things then you know it’s definitely the right time to kiss her.

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Speed dating is often thought of as the ultimate act of desperation, but it can be a lot of fun and is a simple and effective way to liven up your dating life. If you have hit a rut in your love life and you simply want to get out and have a good time, you’ll find that speed dating is a good way to change things up and get out of the house for an evening. If you have any luck, you’ll walk away with not only one hot date planned but several.

Even the most standoffish individuals usually end up having a great time when trying speed dating for the first time. If you go in with the attitude that you simply cannot leave any worse off than you came, you’ll likely find that there are some people attending the session that could be a lot of fun to hang out with, grab a drink with, or that perfect person to go see a movie with. It may seem impossible, but some have even found their soul mates through speed dating. So, while you may think that speed dating is nothing more than a waste of your time, it’s definitely worth trying!

Speed dating can liven up your dating life because if you haven’t been on a date in weeks, months, or perhaps years the actual speed dating session will allow you to go on several mini dates. Chances are if you are yourself and interact with other people, you will have more dates when you leave, or at the very least some phone numbers to call and plan some great dates. From just one speed dating session you could get more dates than you have had in the last five years, just about anyone would have to consider that a livening up of their dating life!

If you are looking for something new to do, a way to get back on that dating horse after some down time, speed dating is a great way to start having fun again! Speed dating can give you back your confidence, help you understand what you do and do not want, or just give you some practice making small talk and living through those uncomfortable first date moments. Speed dating can be the best thing that has happened to you in a long, long time!

Graham Billingham writes for DrDating.com. DrDating is a great
resource for dating advice and
dating site reviewsand they are currently offering a FREE 7 Day Dating eCourse “The Ultimate Man’s Guide to Online Dating”.

Being with someone who is several years older or younger than you can be both a blessing and a curse. Before you decide to get serious, you should know what you’re getting into.

If you’re younger…

PROS

You get to be with someone mature. Someone who doesn’t “act out” or throw tantrums just because you happened to mention that you have a crush on a celebrity. Also, because of your lover’s life experience, he/she can dish out valuable advice that you couldn’t get from your friends.

You can learn a thing or two - and I’m not just talking about life lessons. Older people have had more sexual experiences, and if you’ve got the right lover, he or she won’t hesitate to teach you some new “moves”.

Your lover is more interesting than people your age. Again, this is mostly because of life experiences. Older men and women have gone through enough problems and opportunities, and they have several funny, inspiring, painful, and horrifying stories to tell. Also, if the age gap is wide enough, the type of music or movies that he or she likes may be completely different from yours, and getting a taste of these “oldies” can help you grow culturally.

CONS

Emotional baggage. The older man and the older woman have enough emotional baggage to drag you down. Beware of verbally psychoanalyzing their actions - it’s unlikely that they want a “kid” to tell them what they did wrong in their lives. Instead, be understanding and make sure that your older lover isn’t an emotional vampire who will suck you dry.

If you’re older…

PROS

The younger man/woman can inspire you with a sense of awe. Having a young, new body next to you can knock a few years off of your own age. You get to do more youthful things, and you tap the mindset of today’s youth.

The younger lover doesn’t have that much emotional baggage. This means that things are more “happy-go-lucky” and smoother with the younger lover. You won’t get late night conversations about every ex that’s ever broken his or her heart. Also, there’s not much that you can get compared to. Odds are, if he or she says that you’re the best sex in his/her life, it’s true.

The younger lover looks up to you. This is because of all the advice and life lessons you have to offer. You’ve been through a lot, and your lover knows this. Odds are, you’re the first one he or she talks to during times of conflict.

CONS

The younger lover can be immature. Sometimes, young lovers are such perfectionists that they seek all sorts of things that you can’t give. This is why, if you want to go out with someone younger, make sure that he or she is mature for his or her age.

Graham Billingham writes for DrDating.com. Visit DrDating for
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Anyone that has been involved with speed dating will tell you that it is truly an experience. Some singles have a lot of fun with speed dating and participate regularly so that they can meet new people to share fun experiences with. Speed dating is an opportunity to meet people that will be fun to dance and party with on Saturday night, or even people that will provide long term romantic connections for you. There are a lot of different people looking for different things when it comes to speed dating, so you just might find that there is someone that is a good match for you and what you are looking for.

When you go to your first speed dating event you’ll want to make sure to be yourself. Dress like you would for a date, unless otherwise specified, and be prepared with some topics that you can bring up if conversation gets a bit stale. Great topics to talk about are the weather, your career, where you grew up, and what you like to do for fun. Of course, you will not only want to talk about the things that you do and like to do in your free time, but you will also want to ask your dates about these things as well.

It’s important when you go into the speed dating experience that you are relaxed and you don’t expect to meet your soul mate there. The fact of the matter is that you may meet your soul mate, but it’s better to not have that sort of expectation. Simply go with the expectation that you may or may not meet some people that are worthy of another date or two. When you approach the situation like that you will be happy when you meet someone that really seems to be someone special.

Speed dating is supposed to be fun, so concentrate on the element of fun. Even if the person that sits down across from you is not attractive, is not personable, and is not at all interesting, make the most of it. The easier you make your interactions with each person the quicker time will go by and the next person may be just what you have been looking for!

It’s likely that your speed dating experience will fly by. You may be a bit uncomfortable in the beginning, but after a couple rounds you’ll find yourself fitting into the routine quite well. Just try to relax, and remember to be yourself!

Graham Billingham writes for DrDating.com. DrDating is a great
resource for dating advice and
dating site reviewsand they are currently offering a FREE 7 Day Dating eCourse “The Ultimate Man’s Guide to Online Dating”.