Valentine’s Day Real Cougar Style

As a woman who has seen a lot of Valentine’s come and go I say it’s time to turn this much ballyhooed commercial extravaganza into a 365 day celebration of the heart.

Women yearn for romance, understanding and tenderness and not just for one day a year when it’s the thing to do.. We really want our partner to find little ways to say how they love and appreciate us every day of the year. No matter how much some women deny how important it is to be nurtured, our hearts turn to mush when that special someone shows us how special we are.

And when it comes to sex, genuine caring and consideration is the greatest turn-on that there is. This is especially true for the Real Cougar, who is a smart, self-defined, self-sufficient woman. We don’t need or want empty, perfunctory presents thrown at us for Valentine’s Day. We want to feel that our husbands, partners or lovers have thought through what they can do to show us how much they love and honor us.

As we head into the Valentine’s Day season, here are some hints to get your man to tear himself away from the usual chocolates or roses. Use these tips to remind your baby what you want most.

Here’s a few suggestions to get you started. Now is the perfect time to start asking for what you really want.

1. Actions Speak Louder than Words. A cliche, yes, but only because it’s true. Can your beloved give you a day-or a week-off several times throughout the year? I don’t mean from the office necessarily. I mean a week off from everything you do to manage things on the home front. Women still do the lion’s share of housework, even though we work outside the home in nearly equal numbers as men. Can he make sure dinner’s taken care of for a week, the house is neat and orderly, the bills are paid, the clothes are dropped off and picked up from the cleaners? Can he say, for this week, Baby, I’m taking the heavy items off of your platter. There’s a added benefit here: if he finally understands-through direct experience-all that you manage each day-he’ll get how valuable you are.

2. But A Well-Placed Word Never Hurts. Imagine waking up every day with a beautiful, hand-written note, placed by your bedside? Or, coming back from a meeting to an email from him telling you how much-and why-he loves you? What a mid-afternoon pick-me-up!

3. Go on a Blind Date. I don’t mean go out with someone you’ve never met before. This is about having your mate take all the responsibilities that go into planning the perfect date. Let him work it all out, figure out what will make you smile, over and over again, from the top of the day to it’s final close. Let him find the out of the way, romantic enclave for a meal, a walk in the country or along the water. Let him design the whole beautiful day and then like that game we played as kids where we closed our eyes and fell back into someone’s arms, fall back into your man’s strong arms. Let him carry you, if just for a moment.

4. What’s on Your Bucket List? What are the things you always swore you’d do while you still could? Was there a city you always wanted to visit, a novel you always wanted to write? Did you want to dive off a cliff or out a plane, run the New York marathon? Whatever it was, you don’t have to wait any longer to do it! Talk about your still unrealized dreams and desires with your man and then let him help you see them through. If you always wanted to write, here’s the perfect time for him to pitch and help you find a workshop or ensure that your time is cleared for several hours a week so you can sit and the computer and chip away at the creating the next great American novelist. Let him find the perfect cliff in Mexico or Jamaica where cliff diving is safe. Let him help you. Encourage him to be step up to the plate and be your partner.

5. Don’t Underestimate the Healing Power of Sex. Romance is great and romance with great sex is even better. Too many couples are putting this time to connect the back burner. When was the last time you made love? And, did your toes curl or was it just ho hum? Getting back the knock-your-socks off excitement will do wonders for your relationship. A lot of pent up emotion can dissipate with a good roll in the hay. Talk to your man and tell him what he can do to make it wonderful for you and then return the favor. Maybe you both could try for the one-hour orgasm. Even if you can’t quite make it imagine the fun you will have trying.

Making Valentine’s Day a 365 day celebration will change your life. It’s never too late to experience the love and affection you have always dreamed of. Make this February 14 your New Year. The Year of the Real Cougar!

Linda Franklin is a writer and an advocate for women over 40. Visit her website http://www.highyieldliving.com and receive a free copy of her book “39 Reasons Baby Boomers Will Always Be 39″. Her blog http://www.boomersmakingadifference.com brings you cutting edge information every women needs to know. Become a member of the the Real Cougar Club a social community where women who are smart, confident, independent and know how to get what you want share their tips http://www.realcougarclub.com Linda’s believes “aging is inevitable - how we age is always our choice”.

Before starting High-Yield Living Linda was the first Canadian women to own her seat on the New York Stock Exchange. She was a partner in a Wall Street investment firm for over 20 years.

Everybody knows that a woman will weigh heavily on the opinion of her friends when it comes to dating a guy. Men and women are naturally social creatures that take the opinions of our closest friends very seriously. One of the problems that guys have is that they tend to focus in on the girl that they like almost exclusively. Imagine if you’re out with a bunch of your friends and someone came up to one of them. What if they completely ignored you and your whole group the entire night? You’d probably think that was pretty rude, and that’s the vibe that most guys are giving off in social settings when they’re trying to meet someone. If you do that, you’ve basically started behind the eight ball when it comes to her friends already. Don’t be like every other guy, in order to be looked at differently, you have to be different. Here are some ways you can impress her friends and increase your chances of getting the girl.

Pay attention to her friends

The first mistake that most guys make is ignoring her friends completely. Don’t be rude and seem like you’re only out for one thing. Be sociable and interact with everyone. Be a gentlemen and offer to buy a round of drinks or something similar. Talk to everyone and be genuinely interested in what they have to say. The main key here is that you can’t just completely fake it. Women will see right through you. If you are able to be engaging to her friends, it will win you major points. You’ll be showing her that you can be a dating option because her friends can hang around you too. Women don’t want to have to choose between their friends and their boyfriend, so show her she wouldn’t have to.

Be fun and witty

Women love when there’s a fun guy around. It’s natural for people to gravitate towards fun people. I mean, who wouldn’t want to be around someone that makes you laugh and you have a good time with? The key here is to not overdo it. Don’t be one of those guys that won’t shut up because he thinks he’s so funny. Just be natural and show your wit with a couple well placed one-liners. This is the type of thing that you really can’t practice for, either you have it or you don’t. If you’re not the funniest guy on the planet, at least try to laugh at yourself. Women like a man that doesn’t take himself so serious, so self-deprecating humor works wonders. Women love a man that can make them laugh, so spark her interest even more by showing her how fun you can be.

Be a part of the party

A lot of times when women go out with their friends they celebrate certain things like birthdays, a job promotion, or just about anything really. It’s important that you show her (and her friends) that you can just be one of the “girls” so to speak. By this I mean that you don’t always need all the attention on you. If the night is about her friend’s birthday, then make it about her friend’s birthday. Buy her a drink, pick up the dinner tab, propose a toast, or something similar. These show that you can be selfless and a good friend to her friend. Her friends will enjoy the fact that you can be a part of the group, and she will think your actions are really sweet.

Overall, the relationship you have with a woman’s friends can ultimately decide your fate when it comes to being a romantic interest. Don’t blow it by being like every other guy that’s come up to her that night. Let her know you’re interested, but focus on having fun with her and her friends for the evening. It shows her that you’re not a pompous prick who’s only out for one thing, and it also gains you some very important allies (her friends) in the possibility of romance down the road.

For more general tips on increasing your chances for success, check out the Kiss You Back article on how to get the girl.

Joseph D is the founder and a contributor of dating tips and advice">KissYouBack.com, a site aimed at providing free dating and relationship tips and advice to help people build positive relationships in their life.

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