Another lifestyle factor that can really zap your memory power is stress. Feeling stressed is of course just another part of being human. But overwhelming stress can take a tremendous toll on our overall health, not to mention our memory.

How would you describe stress? For most of us stress is a feeling of pressure and lack of control. Yet formally defined, stress is merely the way you react to change. Stress in and of itself is not problematic. In fact, both “good” and “bad” life events are stressful. What distinguishes “good” stress from “bad” stress (distress) is the degree to which we feel we are in control. For example, most people would consider losing their job as more stressful than getting married. It is the sense of the former being more out of your control that makes it more distressful.

To understand how stress affects memory, let’s look at what happens when we feel stress. When we experience stress, our body triggers a “stress adaptation” response, otherwise known as the “fight or flight” response. So what happens?

- Hormones, including adrenaline and glucocorticoids, are released
- Heart rate increases
- Breathing becomes more rapid and shallow
- Stored sugar is released toy the liver
- Senses are heightened
- Muscles, tense to prepare for movement
- Blood flow to digestive organs and extremities is restricted
- Blood flaw to brain and major muscles increases

This response to stress is a remnant of our primitive past. After all, this kind of preparation was essential if we were faced with something life-threatening, such as an attacking bear. Rarely today do we find ourselves in such life-or-death situations. But our bodies can’t tell the difference between such events and the relatively mundane pressures of modern living, such as being stuck in traffic or getting into an argument with your spouse. The stress-adaptation response kicks in, again and again, exposing us regularly to low levels of this stressed condition.

This unrelenting chronic stress has been associated with various medical and emotional conditions, ranging from cardiovascular disease, gastrointestinal ailments, immune suppression; and endocrine changes. What about memory? Stress lowers memory performance secondarily because of its impact on overall health. Stress also makes us more distracted, which lowers our ability to acquire information we may want to remember.

There is growing evidence that stress may directly impair memory function as well. Research has linked excess stress to shrinkage of the hippocampus, the area of the brain associated with new learning. Evidence for this has come from animal studies as well as studies in human populations exposed to excessive stress, such as individuals suffering from post traumatic stress disorder. Scientists theorize that stress-induced increases of glucocorticoids are responsible for such changes. While more work is needed in this area, these findings suggest that stress is bad for memory in more ways than we previously understood.

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In our society, it’s easy to fall into the thinking that it’s just not our fault. From the quality of our finances to our personal relationships to our problems at work - we want to believe that it’s not us causes the problem. It’s our spouse or children. It’s because our parents raised us this way. It’s because our ex left us or because our boss is too demanding. It’s because our friends just don’t understand.

The problem with this line of thinking is that it places you squarely in the role of the victim. If everything is happening to you, that means you don’t have control over the situation. It’s not your fault - it’s everyone else’s fault. However, as long as you continue to believe this, you will never live the life you dream of.

The truth is that each of us has control over ourselves. We may not have control over everything that happens to us - and we rarely have control over other people. But we do have control over our thoughts, emotions and actions.

No one forces us to react defensively to our boss. No one forces us to pull away from our spouse or yell at our kids. No one forces us to blow our latest paycheck on a weekend shopping spree or today’s object of our desire. We choose to take each of these actions.

When you accept this, your life changes dramatically and you start empowering yourself.

Think of it this way - no one can live your life for you. Sure, some will try. Your parents may have always wanted you to be a doctor or lawyer - so you did. Your spouse may believe that you should do the housekeeping - so you do. Your friends may believe that you should act a certain way - so you do.

But in each of these cases, you’re giving in and agreeing to go along with them. Perhaps you do it because you want their approval. Perhaps you do it because you fear doing otherwise. Yet in each case, you make the decision to act in accordance with their beliefs about you.

It doesn’t have to be this way. You can step up and make decisions for yourself despite what others want for you. It’s your life - start to shape it as you would like for it to be.

So how can you more fully take responsibility for your life? Here are a few ways:

1) Take time for reflection each day. Try meditating or sitting quietly and calming your mind. What is that little voice inside your head saying to you?

2) Eliminate blame. Look for situations where you’re likely to complain about your boss, parents, kids, etc. Are you blaming them for preventing you from doing something? If so, how can you rephrase the statement so that you take responsibility?

3) Change your reaction. When you find yourself about to mention how someone else “makes you so mad,” ask yourself why you are reacting in that way. You may not be able to control the other person, but you don’t have to get so worked up. What is really at the heart of the matter? Do you feel slighted, hurt or rejected? Look at your own emotions and think about the ways you can make yourself feel better.

4) Examine your life. What parts of your life do you wish you could change? Where do you feel powerless or not in control? These are often places where you may not be taking responsibility for your life or accepting the reality of your situation.

5) Take action. What can you do right now to make yourself feel in control of your life? What is it that you want? How can you take a small step right now to move closer towards that goal?

Yes, initially, taking responsibility can be scary, but it’s also empowering. Often when we feel fear, it’s because we’re reaching outside our comfort zone to uncharted territory. And when we do that, we give ourselves the opportunity to grow.

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Do you shy away when you wish that you could join in? Do you feel that sometimes you are just not good enough to achieve something? Are you always putting yourself down? Well if so then you may have an issue with your confidence. Low self esteem or a lack of self confidence is something that affects many people throughout their lives, so it is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact hundreds of leading personalities and even world leaders at one time suffered at the hands of a lack of self confidence. For many years people have been using Hypnosis and Self Hypnosis to beat their low self esteem and enjoy new found confidence – but does it really work?

Hello my name is Richard MacKenzie and I am a clinical hypnotherapist and also the author of a book called Self-Change Hypnosis, which is a book that helps people with many things, including gaining confidence. Now I guess that you have realised that from my introduction and the fact that I am a hypnotherapist that my answer to the question about hypnosis ‘does is really work?’ may be a little biased, so instead I want to tell you ‘why’ is works.

Hypnosis works by re-programming the part of your brain that we refer to as your sub-conscious mind. When you have a lack of self confidence of low self esteem, you run a series of beliefs, habits and programs through your conscious and sub-conscious minds that allow you to feel its effects. Hypnosis changes all that by changing the way that you think, feel and act towards yourself. With hypnosis you can achieve so much in the area of building your confidence, self worth and self esteem. Once the sub-conscious part of your mind has been re-programmed then you will naturally feel great – oozing with confidence and self belief.

While in the state of hypnosis, you will feel relaxed and secure. It is a great chance to just let go from the stresses of the world and just have some YOU time! In fact you will probably love the feeling of being in hypnosis that you will want to practise it regularly as it is a really great and unique feeling to experience. You can enjoy the benefits of hypnosis in many ways, however I suggest that you start with a hypnosis download, recording or visiting your local hypnotherapist.

I wish you the best of luck!

Richard MacKenzie helps clients with confidence and self confidence in his hypnotherapy practice.

Become determined to improve your self esteem and you will be on your way to greater achievement and personal success. Low self esteem can actually ruin your life. The way you think about yourself ultimately determines how you interact with others.

If you find yourself thinking or feeling any of the following 6 phrases then you may be afflicted with low self-esteem:

1. Nothing you do seems to go right.

2. You believe that most people do not like you.

3. You believe that you are not attractive.

4. You choose something and it turns out to be the worst one.

5. You are afraid to converse with others for fear that what you say might not make sense.

6. You feel swallowed up in a whirlpool of frustration.

But the only things that are wrong with you are your thoughts, actually.

Stop thinking that the world is closing in on you. Get determined to achieve what you desire. Stop blaming other people for your misfortunes. The world is not your problem; you are your own problem.

From this moment on, begin the process of how to improve your self esteem. Think the right way and be determined to win, and win you will. Just remember that success never comes easily and that is why determination is its counterpart. The winner is not always the strongest or most talented, but the one who thinks winning is possible.

How often have you seen someone get to the brink of success and after one disappointment or setback, lose heart and give up too easily and too soon? If this was you, you need to improve your self esteem. Who knows what great things you might have achieved if only you had persevered?

Without high self esteem, your life could be rather boring. Change your thinking and begin to see yourself on top of the world. Make a very special effort to be what you really want to be.

Only you can decide whether to remain in a miserable state of low self esteem, or improve your self esteem and develop a stronger self image.

The Origin of Low Self Esteem

Low self esteem could begin way back in childhood when children were made to believe that they were worthless. Their self confidence is eroded and they succumb to the idea that they can never achieve any real success. They were picked on, laughed at, pushed around, called ugly names, and treated with disdain. No wonder they grew up to be full of resentment.

If that was your experience, it is time you cut yourself loose from that mindset and get to work to improve your self esteem. Start reading about the life of successful people and you will soon discover that many of them also had such low self esteem that they did not even complete an elementary education.

Many decided to override their low self esteem and improve their attitude, whatever it took. They became some of the greatest men and women that ever lived.

Low self esteem has never helped anyone else and it sure will not help you. It can only drive you into depression, anger, grudge, fear and all the other evils that it generates.

Change your thinking and control your state of mind. You must believe that you are worth much more than you think or you will remain at the foot of the ladder and never make an attempt to climb it.

Do not waste your life away with feelings of inadequacies. Instead, think of ways to improve your self esteem. Success is your right, just reach out and grasp it.

Peter Fisher is an expert Author and Coach as well as Publisher of Your Positive Attitude - a website where you will find tons of resources to help you Motivate Yourself to greater self esteem.

Few people truly succeed in life. A vast majority of people are withdrawn and shy - they don’t have many friends, as they are unable to interact meaningfully with people outside of their inner-circle. Boys don’t find dates easily and girls fail to impress, all because of their lack of self-confidence. Can you tolerate a speaker whose utterances do not carry conviction? Timid speakers don’t captivate their audiences. They can’t be persuasive. In short, their speeches don’t have the necessary pep and spirit to be exciting and end up falling flat. Timid people continue through life somehow, but as they don’t stand up to be counted, success is something they only dream about. Why not go for it? A lack of self-confidence is what keeps most from being assertive, successful and ultimately happy in life. However, if you can recognize that you lack the self-confidence you want, you can work on building it up and making your dreams of success a reality.

Defining self-confidence
If you can recognize the qualities of a person brimming with self-confidence, this will help you succeed in building your self-confidence. How do you know that a person is confident? It’s easy, really. If you are balanced and confident, you are assertive, your body language conveys your confidence, you hold your head high, you speak with authority but not with arrogance, your attitude is positive, you go after your goals with determination -well-prepared to overcome any hurdles en route because you don’t flinch at taking calculated risks whenever required, and whenever you make mistakes, you readily and graciously own up to them. Like people with low self-confidence, you don’t look for scapegoats in such circumstances. Like people who are over-confident, you don’t allow yourself to make those mistakes too many times. And unlike people with no confidence at all, you are outgoing and courageous. Your goals are set realistically, keeping in mind a fair assessment of your assets, your weaknesses and your skills and talents. On the other hand, over-confident people, as you may observe, have a tendency to set unreachable goals and prone to be hurt and have their confidence shattered when failure stares them in the face.

Building self-confidence
While attempting to build self-confidence, you may have a couple of questions to ask yourself. Is it possible to build self-confidence? If by nature you are not initially endowed with confidence, you may think you stay that way forever. Not necessarily. You can actually take small but reachable steps in order to build good confidence. However, self-confidence and success are interdependent. Normally, you can’t succeed without confidence playing a role in your efforts and without success you can’t have self-confidence. It’s a Catch – 22.

If that is the case, how do you build self-confidence? Good question. Start by setting yourself a small enough goal that you can achieve it without too much difficulty. Then achieve it and watch your confidence grow. Repeat the steps, every time making the goal a little tougher than before and gradually build your confidence step by step.

Secrets to building self-confidence
The first secret of building self-confidence is to honestly analyze your strengths and weaknesses. The next one is to work hard on minimizing the weaknesses while maximizing your strengths. Then, analyze the task on hand. Arm yourself well with good, solid preparation to make the most of the opportunities available to do the job and to do it as best as you possibly can. Also, shield yourself against any anticipated threats that might stop you or slow you down in your tracks.

Time management is of utmost importance in all your efforts. Training yourself mentally is also equally important. The better your analysis, training and preparation, the better your chances of success and the stronger your self-confidence. Build it to the appropriate levels and achieve success in all aspects of your life.

Kevin Yang is a writer that concentrates on helping people better themselves, for cutting edge information you NEED to know about your self esteem before you try to change your life check out his website at http://www.howtohavehighselfesteem.com/

Are you shy? If you suffer from extreme shyness, you have probably wished there was a pill you could take that would make all your shyness just go away.

Researchers have discovered that some anti-depressant medications, particularly the kind called SSRI’s (selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors), can help people who suffer from a condition called social anxiety disorder to become more sociable.

This class of drugs seems to help people who are socially anxious to turn down the excessive volume of their inner judgmental thoughts.

Is it a good idea to take a pill to make you friendlier? There are pros and cons to be considered when deciding whether to take a drug for social anxiety. The SSRI drugs can cause insomnia, weight gain, nervous agitation, and a loss of sexual desire, as well as many other less common side effects. These drugs can also be quite expensive.

Because the SSRI drugs are relatively new, it is not yet known what the long-term effects of this class of drugs may be. Some doctors are concerned that society is trying to medicate shyness which is a normal human condition.

Yet many shy people who are overwhelmed with negative feelings of anxiety when they are around others turn to these medications to deal with their social anxiety.

When using SSRI medications, the improvement in sociability only lasts as long as the drug is taken on a regular basis. When the drug is discontinued, the symptoms of shyness will likely reappear.

Using Illegal Drugs Or Alcohol To Cope With Shyness

Many people who are shy or who have a fear of being rejected by others, try to deal with their fears by getting drunk or taking illegal drugs whenever they are at a party or in a social situation. This can be a dangerous way to try to deal with shyness or a fear of social rejection.

Have you developed the habit of drinking lots of alcohol or using illegal drugs so that you can relax around others and just let loose? Getting very drunk or stoned at parties so that you overcome your sensations of feeling anxious is very common with people who feel inadequate or shy.

There are many dangers with this approach, and it does not lead to any positive solutions.

You won’t be at your best when you are intoxicated, and the people that you meet when you are drunk or stoned will only get to know your intoxicated self, not your real self. By abusing alcohol or drugs you also increase the risk of other negative outcomes such as getting into arguments and fights, and having serious accidents.

One danger of course is that you can become physically and psychologically addicted to drugs or alcohol. Eventually the addiction can cause even more serious problems in your life than the problems you started out with. If you rely on drugs and alcohol to get the courage to deal with other people, you will never develop the social and emotional skills needed to make real emotional connections to others.

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The simplest exercise to build your self-esteem is a physical exercise. A person with good health and strong body has a very high potential and energy for achievements. If your body is broke and you do not like what you see in the mirror – no affirmation will help you. Only a direct action upon your body excellence will increase your self respect and confidence.

One of the reasons we sometimes feel depressed is a stress we get over and over again on the daily basis. Problems at work, with family and friends, personal problems combine together to make us feel disappointed in life. Physical exercises can help us.

During the trainings, our brain actively produces such called endorphins, which are the hormones of happiness. These hormones are in charge of our excitement of the outer world. The more our brain produces these hormones the happier we feel. By the influence of endorphins any stress and disappointment goes away and life again appears in bright colors.

Another reason to begin physical activity is to increase metabolism and get rid of excess fat. If you have some excess fat you will also feel uncomfortable and unconfident. It is hard for overweight people to do different tasks, to find good fitting clothes. Once you get rid of excess fat you get rid of these problems. Physical training and appropriate diet can easily release you from the fat prison.

My advice in physical activity is two or three workouts per week in the gym and 10-15 minutes exercise daily. Easy morning exercises will help you wake up more quickly, charge your body with energy and your brain with positive thoughts. These exercises are absolutely necessary for those who work in the office and lack the movement.

The workout in the gym will form your body and keep it in good shape all your life. There will be no reason for you to feel ashamed every time you undress on the beach or in front of your partner. You will always know that you are perfectly looking and you will feel the same too.

Do not wait, think or procrastinate. Make a commitment to become excellent in everything you do and make the decision to look perfect. Start exercising, find a good gym and a personal trainer. Believe me that it is totally worth it.

For more information on how to build your self esteem visit: http://www.self-esteem-guide.com

Nobody deserves anything.

Disappointed? Don’t be! This may be one of the most important concepts you can wrap your mind around. It is a hugely important understanding to grasp if you are experiencing any lack in your life. Whether or not you have what you need and desire has nothing at all to do with deserving. It has everything to do with whether you are allowing it.

The notion of deserving or not deserving has no basis at all in Truth, and no reality other than that which we give it. In the eyes of the Divine, there is no such thing as deserving or not deserving. Source gives endlessly, consistently, impersonally and totally without judgment. The only one that withholds the flow of Life Force, Love, abundance or any desirable thing is the human ego.

Yes, the concept of deserving was concocted by the ego-mind as a tool for controlling—and primarily restricting—the flow of Source energy, the font of all forms of abundance. The criteria of deserving and of not deserving are just aspects of yet another form of ego’s favorite tool: judgment. Judgment is ego’s way of limiting the flow of Love/Life Force and holding us at lower vibrational frequency in the realm where it has power. The deserve/don’t deserve gimmick has been hugely successful for ego and is responsible for keeping multitudes of humans stuck in poverty and unhappiness.

If you are laboring under the notion that you must deserve something to have it, you are creating a block in the flow and not allowing the abundance of Source to flow to you the way it is naturally inclined to. You probably have standards in your mind for when you, or someone else, deserves something or not. Maybe it’s when you’ve done enough hard work, or you’ve been virtuous according to some moral code, or you’ve endured a certain amount of hardship. But none of these have anything to do with how much or how little abundance you have except that you are using them to decide whether to allow the flow or not.

All that we receive comes from Source through our willingness to allow it. The idea of deserving and not deserving the bounty that is always pouring forth from Source is a purely human device—a choice we make to withhold it from ourselves based on a faulty idea. Source is completely unconditional and gives freely; likewise, we are to receive freely and unconditionally. The more we align with Source and allow the flow of abundance, the happier and more prosperous we’ll be. Dropping the notions of “I deserve” and “I don’t deserve” allows us to receive all that Source has to offer.

©2007 Julia Rogers Hamrick

Julia Rogers Hamrick has been a spiritual-growth facilitator for over two decades, and is the author of Recreating Eden: The Exquisitely Simple, Divinely Ordained Plan for Transforming Your Life and Your Planet. Julia writes about and leads seminars on the relationship between vibrational frequency and experience. For more information on Julia and to get on her list to be eligible for her free monthly teleseminars, visit http://www.juliarogershamrick.com or http://iliveineasyworld.com

The whole world’s in the label business. Every time we turn around, somebody’s jamming a label on us. Not those “Hi, My name is” stick-ums, Not any sort of tangible, visible label, in fact, but psychological Post-It® notes.

Even early on in life, we’re covered with labels. Sometime in our elementary school years, the labels pile up, label on label, for lack of space. By our adult years, we can get bogged down in the multitude of labels.

The good news is the labels are invisible, so we can still see where we’re going and do other necessary activities. The bad news is the labels are invisible, so we’re not aware of the burden they create or the price we’re paying.

Mom tells us we can’t do anything right. Dad tells us we’ll never amount to anything. One teacher tells us we’re slow, another that we’re a disruption. So-called friends claim we dress like a dork. And on, and on, and on. And we take all those labels in to nurture and feed so they grow up big and strong.

Strangely, we forget that Mom also said we were thoughtful, and Dad often bragged on our sports achievements. Our piano teacher crooned over our “touch.” The Spanish teacher exclaimed about our exceptional ear for languages. Somehow we decided they said those things because they didn’t really know what we were like. Perhaps they lied to be kind. Positive labels we leave out in the cold to wither and die.

We let the well-tended negative labels describe to us who we are, to build walls around us that hold us back. To sap our courage and make it almost impossible to dare. But most of all, to keep people at a distance because, we figure, they wouldn’t like us if they really got to know us.

And we don’t even know how we got to where we are–how it happened or that we allowed it to happen.

We need to clean house, to make an inventory of all the labels we accepted and separate the true from the garbage. Our emotional garbage cans will overflow as we rid ourselves of false, life-inhibiting labels.

We’ll finish the job by understanding why people label others so we don’t let anger replace labels.

People make mistakes. A teacher labeled Albert Einstein, one of history’s greatest physicists, retarded. The amazing inventor, Thomas Edison, was labeled a useless dreamer. Both were too unique for their labelers to understand. We all have uniqueness in us.

People control by criticism, especially with children. Some teachers and parents use labels to make children passive, thus easier to handle. They don’t know–or don’t care–about the damage they do. We need to realize the negativity of what they said is more about them than about us.

Some people work from the fertile soil of jealousy. They use dismissive, belittling labels to drag down anybody who makes them uncomfortable. They hone their critical skills by raising destructive labeling to an art form, but no good comes out of it. It’s still not about us–except as a compliment.

Others simply can’t see beyond their own limits. Hedged in by cramped skill sets and modest IQs, they perceive us to be just like them. Unable to see who we really are or comprehend our potential, they label us as far less than we are–and certainly less than we can be.

One more thing: This sort, dump and understand routine won’t be a one-time event. There’s something in us that keeps wanting to reclaim our labels. We’re used to them, and we feel a little lost without them. We’ll have to keep taking the garbage out until it’s gone for good. The truck comes every week, so don’t hold back.

When the old garbage is finally gone, don’t let new trash replace it. There will never be a shortage of volunteers to slap more soul-sapping labels on us, but we don’t have to let it happen. Now we know the deal about labels, we’re in control.

Repeat after me: Often, what other people say about me isn’t about me.

Bette Dowdell is a former IBM Systems Engineer, a small business consultant and software company owner. A lifelong people lover, she authored How to be a Christian Without Being Annoying, an encouraging book about how the Bible describes Christianity. She also creates Quick Takes on Life, a no-cost, weekly e-mail subscription.

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Too many people expect to be respected by others when they don’t act respectfully themselves. Once you learn to respect yourself, you will attract respect from others. Here are some guidelines for learning self-respect.

“I want him to respect me.”

“If people respect me, I’ll respect them.”

“My kids should respect me (it doesn’t matter how I treat them).”

If you don’t respect yourself, you’ll never respect others.

Self-Respecting People

1. Think about how their behavior affects the people around them

2. Consider what they say before blurting out hurtful words

3. Understand the Golden Rule according to Eugene Brown, LPC (my former supervisor and mentor): Do unto others as they need to be done unto

4. Seek first to understand, then to be understood (Stephen Covey, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People)

5. Take responsibility for their behavior

6. Let go of the need to hold grudges

Let’s look at these six ideas about self-respect:

1. Think about how their behavior effects the people around them

Self-respecting people realize that they don’t live in a vacuum; their behavior affects others. They think about what they do and ask themselves, “How will my doing ________ affect the people I care about/my coworkers/others I come in contact with?” They weigh the consequences carefully before acting.

2. Consider what they say before blurting out hurtful words

When self-respecting people engage in disagreements with others, they act diplomatically. Yes, they experience anger just like the rest of us, but they choose their responses instead of allowing a knee-jerk reaction to determine what happens next. They realize that hurtful words won’t help their partner understand what is wrong and will harm the relationship.

3. Understand the Golden Rule according to Eugene Brown, LPC (my former supervisor and mentor): Do unto others as they need to be done unto

This ties into understanding that their behavior impacts others. They realize that just because they would like something done a certain way, that others may not agree. They take the time to learn how others need to be treated, rather than just using a “one size fits all” approach.

4. Seek first to understand, then to be understood (Stephen Covey, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People)

Self-respecting people understand the value of active listening. They know that if people feel understood, then they are more likely to be willing to listen to another person’s point of view. Self-respecting people do not try to push their views on others to be understood first. They are willing to work to earn the other person’s respect and trust.

5. Take responsibility for their behavior

This means they are willing to admit when they are wrong. They feel comfortable with themselves and don’t feel threatened if they make a mistake. Their ego isn’t tied up in always needing to be right. This also means that the self-respecting person lets others be responsible for their behavior, letting go of the need to control them or change them.

6. Let go of the need to hold grudges

Self-respecting people realize that when they hold a grudge, they keep themselves locked into anger and resentment. They know they will keep growing as a person when they allow others to be responsible for their behavior instead of holding a grudge to try to make others change.

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